Guys, I have a big dilemna I need serious advice.
I left Vietnam 6 years ago and though I visit occasionally I have no intention to go back long term.
I"m finishing up my studies in Paris and things are looking good, I plan to stay in the West for a while and then continue living the nomad life (changing country every 5-6 years, traveling)
My parents are proposing me to go back home to Vietnam to be a hotel manager. They want to buy a medium hotel as their legacy for me and I would be the manager. At first they will lend me money for operational costs etc.
The way they break it down, I have every reason to go back: be my own boss, have a property to manage, be of a high social status in Vietnam, be close to my family. Whereas if I stay in the West I'll forever be a grunt, middle manager at top.
But the thing is, I just don't want to go back.
I don't know how to describe it, but I left for a reason. The cultural climate in Vietnam is suffocating. You guys may love it when you come visit, but I feel like long-term living (especially for a Westernized like me) is just not bearable. I don't like the people. I don't like the girls (except if they are very hot), I like white and latina girls. The mentality is alien to me. I just don't fit in. Never really did, that's why I left.
Career-wise, I'm a lone wolf. I HATE having to manage people. Not to mention that managing properties and business has never been what I want to do. I'm a research specialist/sociologist by trade. I want to eventually open my own bar one day, but that's not the same as managing a hotel.
That, and the whole thing about managing something for my parent (even though it would eventually be mine) just stinks with me. I don't like to owe my parents anything, especially because they have been very controlling in the past.
I know the west has its problems but you cats who have been expat will know that you would not want to trade places with some Asian countries. I love the culture in Europe and the idea of me being a stranger with total freedom and all that. I know I will never truly "fit in" here, but then I never did back home. And I have more and better friends here than back home.
What do you guys think I should do?
If I accept I have to go back next year, and I feel like my life in Paris just started to blossom.
I left Vietnam 6 years ago and though I visit occasionally I have no intention to go back long term.
I"m finishing up my studies in Paris and things are looking good, I plan to stay in the West for a while and then continue living the nomad life (changing country every 5-6 years, traveling)
My parents are proposing me to go back home to Vietnam to be a hotel manager. They want to buy a medium hotel as their legacy for me and I would be the manager. At first they will lend me money for operational costs etc.
The way they break it down, I have every reason to go back: be my own boss, have a property to manage, be of a high social status in Vietnam, be close to my family. Whereas if I stay in the West I'll forever be a grunt, middle manager at top.
But the thing is, I just don't want to go back.
I don't know how to describe it, but I left for a reason. The cultural climate in Vietnam is suffocating. You guys may love it when you come visit, but I feel like long-term living (especially for a Westernized like me) is just not bearable. I don't like the people. I don't like the girls (except if they are very hot), I like white and latina girls. The mentality is alien to me. I just don't fit in. Never really did, that's why I left.
Career-wise, I'm a lone wolf. I HATE having to manage people. Not to mention that managing properties and business has never been what I want to do. I'm a research specialist/sociologist by trade. I want to eventually open my own bar one day, but that's not the same as managing a hotel.
That, and the whole thing about managing something for my parent (even though it would eventually be mine) just stinks with me. I don't like to owe my parents anything, especially because they have been very controlling in the past.
I know the west has its problems but you cats who have been expat will know that you would not want to trade places with some Asian countries. I love the culture in Europe and the idea of me being a stranger with total freedom and all that. I know I will never truly "fit in" here, but then I never did back home. And I have more and better friends here than back home.
What do you guys think I should do?
If I accept I have to go back next year, and I feel like my life in Paris just started to blossom.
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