I've read the related threads on RVF and seemingly everything else online and still blow way too quickly (20 seconds if I'm lucky). To the guys who want to insist that premature/rapid ejaculation doesn't exist, please don't bother; I want long exhausting thrusting sessions for my own prolonged pleasure... a lot of girls don't seem to mind me busting early anyway as long as they get off too in other ways, but I also realize that bitches need fucked long and hard too to keep 'em feigning for more dick. I'm really not nervous during sex; I don't worry about whether I'll blow early because I already know it will happen. Unfortunately I've found myself avoiding offers for sex sometimes if I'm getting laid regularly so I don't have to deal with my own disappointment,
Here's everything I've tried that has not helped:
--- fapping before I go out or getting a second wood after I bust inside her. The second wood doesn't come around until at least 30-40 minutes after the first ejaculation during sex, and even that wood doesn't last much, if any, longer before I blast cum again. When masturbating, the second wood might come back in 10 minutes if I focus on porn and seems to last a little longer, but for whatever reason I can't get it back that fast during sex, even if she's hot and jerking it.
--- exercising regularly (running, swimming, & lifting) and eating healthy.
--- slow deep breathing, triangle breathing, focusing on other things, focusing on the sensation...
--- no porn and no fapping for 3-4 months while doing rigorous pelvic floor muscle exercise routines as thoroughly described below had no effect other than maybe a stronger dick muscle:
http://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ej...urney.html
http://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ej...guide.html
... although I don't think I could ever do the reverse kegel and reverse root-lock accurately, they just felt like I was flexing my abs, pushing out my gut, or trying to push out imaginary turds.
--- practicing dry orgasms or multi-orgasms. Regardless of if I work on timing and clench my dick muscle with all my might (for up to 40 seconds) and hold back the blast (which I usually can't), the sensation is still there waiting when I release. Or if I try fully relaxing the dick muscle with all my focus, it still launches a huge happy load.
--- stretching my pelvic area and dick muscle.
--- the condoms with the numbing gel don't effect me at all (Durex Performex, IIRC).
--- I tried a cock ring to attempt to hold blood in my cock after orgasm, which didn't work; it still deflates. It was very uncomfortable, prevented some cum from exiting, and made my dick purple and extra veiny.
--- edging, start-stop technique, squeezing the head upon approaching the edge, tugging my balls downwards, putting pressure on my taint... none of that helped.
--- I glanced through Mantak Chia stuff, but tossed it as soon as I realized how much was based on imaginary pseudo energies.
Here's things that do help, but aren't a real practical or healthy solution:
--- regularly taking SSRI antidepressants. Zoloft worked marvelously. But I can't believe that those chemicals are healthy for my body. Unfortunately I couldn't just take one when I needed; it takes a while with regular dosing to work.
--- alcohol. It works some of the time, mostly after a long active night of heavy drinking. I can't get to that point within an hour though; I hate it, I can't drive or speak straight, and again, large amounts of alcohol is an unhealthy poison that I can't rely on everyday.
--- Having the girl ride on top. She has to mount very slowly and not move for a minute or two when I'm fully inside while the sensation slightly lessens; only then can she start to move up & down slowly and I have to tell her to slow down or stop completely often. This still only puts me barely past the minute mark unless she's not moving at all. Some girls are uncomfortable or don't prefer that position and get tired quickly, and it's still nowhere near as fun as bending bitches over and hammering their uterus.
Here are things that I haven't or can't currently try:
--- hypnotism or sex therapy. It would take several intense sessions I'm sure, which would be very expensive, and I have doubts that it'd actually work in the long run. My oilfield job also prevents regular weekly visits.
--- hallucinogens. Even if my job didn't do random drug tests, I take a medication that would react dangerously with them. I also work a LOT (oilfield) and any off time is on-call, so I can't easily plan weekend-long mind trips. If they could work, I'd probably need multiple sessions to see any change (I've had one ayahuasca/DMT session, which had no life-changing effects at all).
--- heavily applying different numbing gels (the numbing condoms didn't work at all). Can you recommend any sprays or gels that do work? This still isn't a long term solution and is very inconvenient: carrying the tube on you when you go out, taking a break to apply it with calculated time for it to become effective, some girls have allergic reactions to it, and you can never barebone because she'd get numb.
--- erectile dysfunction prescriptions to try to shorten my refractory period. I get my first wood just fine so I don't need them nor do I want to rely on them for the same reason I don't want SSRI's or other strange chemicals in my body. Probably expensive too.
--- natural herbs that some claim might delay ejaculation or treat ED to try to shorten my refractory period. If you can recommend any that are promising, please let me know; I'd be more comfortable taking natural over synthetic substances, though I have a lot of doubt and feel like any natural remedy would be a waste of money.
--- Dapoxetine and a related nasal spray, an SSRI for premature ejaculation that reacts quickly and doesn't require a daily regiment, use only when needed. Neither are approved for the US yet and will be expensive.
--- Maybe some far-out native shaman has a crazy custom jungle juice treatment (money, caution, & time needed).
--- Acupuncture. Seems kind of hokey and I hate needles, but might be willing to try if it's affordable and promising. Any thoughts?
I'm not addicted to porn and can go as long as needed without it; I currently only fap 2-3 times/week just because I have no other solid plan of action and still experiment with techniques. And how attractive the bitch I'm with is or how tight her pussy is has no effect. I'm hoping you sex masters have some advice or other tricks up your sleeve that I haven't uncovered. Thanks in advance.
Here's everything I've tried that has not helped:
--- fapping before I go out or getting a second wood after I bust inside her. The second wood doesn't come around until at least 30-40 minutes after the first ejaculation during sex, and even that wood doesn't last much, if any, longer before I blast cum again. When masturbating, the second wood might come back in 10 minutes if I focus on porn and seems to last a little longer, but for whatever reason I can't get it back that fast during sex, even if she's hot and jerking it.
--- exercising regularly (running, swimming, & lifting) and eating healthy.
--- slow deep breathing, triangle breathing, focusing on other things, focusing on the sensation...
--- no porn and no fapping for 3-4 months while doing rigorous pelvic floor muscle exercise routines as thoroughly described below had no effect other than maybe a stronger dick muscle:
http://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ej...urney.html
http://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ej...guide.html
... although I don't think I could ever do the reverse kegel and reverse root-lock accurately, they just felt like I was flexing my abs, pushing out my gut, or trying to push out imaginary turds.
--- practicing dry orgasms or multi-orgasms. Regardless of if I work on timing and clench my dick muscle with all my might (for up to 40 seconds) and hold back the blast (which I usually can't), the sensation is still there waiting when I release. Or if I try fully relaxing the dick muscle with all my focus, it still launches a huge happy load.
--- stretching my pelvic area and dick muscle.
--- the condoms with the numbing gel don't effect me at all (Durex Performex, IIRC).
--- I tried a cock ring to attempt to hold blood in my cock after orgasm, which didn't work; it still deflates. It was very uncomfortable, prevented some cum from exiting, and made my dick purple and extra veiny.
--- edging, start-stop technique, squeezing the head upon approaching the edge, tugging my balls downwards, putting pressure on my taint... none of that helped.
--- I glanced through Mantak Chia stuff, but tossed it as soon as I realized how much was based on imaginary pseudo energies.
Here's things that do help, but aren't a real practical or healthy solution:
--- regularly taking SSRI antidepressants. Zoloft worked marvelously. But I can't believe that those chemicals are healthy for my body. Unfortunately I couldn't just take one when I needed; it takes a while with regular dosing to work.
--- alcohol. It works some of the time, mostly after a long active night of heavy drinking. I can't get to that point within an hour though; I hate it, I can't drive or speak straight, and again, large amounts of alcohol is an unhealthy poison that I can't rely on everyday.
--- Having the girl ride on top. She has to mount very slowly and not move for a minute or two when I'm fully inside while the sensation slightly lessens; only then can she start to move up & down slowly and I have to tell her to slow down or stop completely often. This still only puts me barely past the minute mark unless she's not moving at all. Some girls are uncomfortable or don't prefer that position and get tired quickly, and it's still nowhere near as fun as bending bitches over and hammering their uterus.
Here are things that I haven't or can't currently try:
--- hypnotism or sex therapy. It would take several intense sessions I'm sure, which would be very expensive, and I have doubts that it'd actually work in the long run. My oilfield job also prevents regular weekly visits.
--- hallucinogens. Even if my job didn't do random drug tests, I take a medication that would react dangerously with them. I also work a LOT (oilfield) and any off time is on-call, so I can't easily plan weekend-long mind trips. If they could work, I'd probably need multiple sessions to see any change (I've had one ayahuasca/DMT session, which had no life-changing effects at all).
--- heavily applying different numbing gels (the numbing condoms didn't work at all). Can you recommend any sprays or gels that do work? This still isn't a long term solution and is very inconvenient: carrying the tube on you when you go out, taking a break to apply it with calculated time for it to become effective, some girls have allergic reactions to it, and you can never barebone because she'd get numb.
--- erectile dysfunction prescriptions to try to shorten my refractory period. I get my first wood just fine so I don't need them nor do I want to rely on them for the same reason I don't want SSRI's or other strange chemicals in my body. Probably expensive too.
--- natural herbs that some claim might delay ejaculation or treat ED to try to shorten my refractory period. If you can recommend any that are promising, please let me know; I'd be more comfortable taking natural over synthetic substances, though I have a lot of doubt and feel like any natural remedy would be a waste of money.
--- Dapoxetine and a related nasal spray, an SSRI for premature ejaculation that reacts quickly and doesn't require a daily regiment, use only when needed. Neither are approved for the US yet and will be expensive.
--- Maybe some far-out native shaman has a crazy custom jungle juice treatment (money, caution, & time needed).
--- Acupuncture. Seems kind of hokey and I hate needles, but might be willing to try if it's affordable and promising. Any thoughts?
I'm not addicted to porn and can go as long as needed without it; I currently only fap 2-3 times/week just because I have no other solid plan of action and still experiment with techniques. And how attractive the bitch I'm with is or how tight her pussy is has no effect. I'm hoping you sex masters have some advice or other tricks up your sleeve that I haven't uncovered. Thanks in advance.