You have to bully, confront, and shit-test effeminate men to see if they respond well.
How do they respond to being commanded and yelled at? Do they have grace under pressure? If they do then their masculine demeanor is not relevant, they already outclass most people and can be trusted not to crack. You don't have to like him or be his friend, but you can still trust him.
One thing you have to understand is that not many people have this quality. So there's likely many people you've overlooked and have misplaced trust in, simply because of their demeanor.
That being said, most effeminate men are fairly weaselly, always overlooking relevant facts and being great spin-doctors. You pretty much have to accept nothing less than the direct facts stated plainly, question and reframe continuously.
How do they respond to being commanded and yelled at? Do they have grace under pressure? If they do then their masculine demeanor is not relevant, they already outclass most people and can be trusted not to crack. You don't have to like him or be his friend, but you can still trust him.
One thing you have to understand is that not many people have this quality. So there's likely many people you've overlooked and have misplaced trust in, simply because of their demeanor.
That being said, most effeminate men are fairly weaselly, always overlooking relevant facts and being great spin-doctors. You pretty much have to accept nothing less than the direct facts stated plainly, question and reframe continuously.