I need you guy's analysis on this girl because I'm confused as fuck.
Met this girl online. We text for a bit. Try to set up something and she tells me she's really shy. I'm thinking no problem because I'm very good with shy and quiet girls.
I met up with her and try to talk a little and she's just quiet. Which isn't a big deal for me because I'm very good with these types and can ramble on.
But this girl is different, I find her incredibly difficult to engage. Even simple questions results in a "no" and "I'm not telling you that" She avoids eye contact with me the entire time, and looks away or forward. Any question I ask results in a one word answer. Any sort of open ended question I ask results in, "whatever" "maybe" "everything" "I don't know". I take her to the bar thinking, maybe she will lose some of her anxiety. She baby sits one beer. She spends the entire time people watching, looking at the tv, and trying to tell me not to look at her, or avoiding eye contact with me, she occasionally looks at my eyes and when I catch her she says "stoooop." and "this is why I don't like at you"
We eventually get somewhere dark and quiet where we make out a little, she doesn't let me go any further and I let it go and don't act too aggressive about it because she seems timid and I don't wanna scare the cat.
At this point I think, I actually like this girl and feel there's something there, I don't know what it is but she's intriguing. Physically she's a solid 8. She's not a virgin. She doesn't seem "socially retarded" like someone who isn't aware of etiquette or what to do, and like I said, she's a solid 8 so she has a fairly normal personality. There's just something, odd about her that I can't put my finger on.
Eventually we go on a second date. Over text she tells me she wants to go somewhere fun. She tells me she wants to go to a loud, dark, crowded bar or dance club where she can people watch. She jokingly says where she doesn't have to talk and make eye contact.
I meet her and try to go for a hug but she's not having it. We go to a chill bar that would be very good for a date and good for conversation, I try to get her to play pool with me but she refuses to play pool. We finish our drinks and she says she doesn't like it because it's not crowded enough. she gets jealous of this girl that keeps eyeing me. I tell her she probably thinks I'm an asshole because you're not looking at me or even engaging me. She jokes and says we should make out right then and there to get the girl that's eyeing me jealous. She puckers up but jokingly.
The entire time we're walking between bar to bar she seems pissed. I ask her if she's alright and tells me she hates when people ask her that because she just normally looks like that.
We go on to a different loud, dark, dance club which is terrible for game. I get us drinks. I ask her to dance. She tells me she doesn't dance unless she's blackout drunk and won't dance. And she doesn't wanna drink more than a beer.
So we're in the middle of a dance club, I'm standing next to her, she's standing just looking. At some points it did not even seem to the casual observer like we were together, or that perhaps she hated me. It was awkward. At some points I'd try to lead her by touching the small of her back and she'd tell me to stop touching her or not to touch her. Any attempt to engage her on any fucking level would fail.
For example, she told me she had to wake up early to go somewhere with her sister, I ask her, "oh what are you guys gonna do" and she doesn't want to tell me or says no to any sort of question I ask. She was like a brick wall. At the same time I'm sure she likes me. I'm flabbergasted. We ended up in one last club where she continued to stand around and just look at people, I standing beside her. She was acting like everything was cool between us which confused the fuck out of me even more.
By the end of the night my inner game was crushed by this girl and I felt awful about myself. She was impossibly difficult to engage on any level....yet she liked me....I couldn't understand it. It I told her we should leave soon. We walked quietly to the parking lot. I walked her to her car and said see ya and left. I'm sure we could have made out but I wasn't in a bad head space. I don't understand this girl. By the end of the night I was deeply upset because I genuinely liked her.
Met this girl online. We text for a bit. Try to set up something and she tells me she's really shy. I'm thinking no problem because I'm very good with shy and quiet girls.
I met up with her and try to talk a little and she's just quiet. Which isn't a big deal for me because I'm very good with these types and can ramble on.
But this girl is different, I find her incredibly difficult to engage. Even simple questions results in a "no" and "I'm not telling you that" She avoids eye contact with me the entire time, and looks away or forward. Any question I ask results in a one word answer. Any sort of open ended question I ask results in, "whatever" "maybe" "everything" "I don't know". I take her to the bar thinking, maybe she will lose some of her anxiety. She baby sits one beer. She spends the entire time people watching, looking at the tv, and trying to tell me not to look at her, or avoiding eye contact with me, she occasionally looks at my eyes and when I catch her she says "stoooop." and "this is why I don't like at you"
We eventually get somewhere dark and quiet where we make out a little, she doesn't let me go any further and I let it go and don't act too aggressive about it because she seems timid and I don't wanna scare the cat.
At this point I think, I actually like this girl and feel there's something there, I don't know what it is but she's intriguing. Physically she's a solid 8. She's not a virgin. She doesn't seem "socially retarded" like someone who isn't aware of etiquette or what to do, and like I said, she's a solid 8 so she has a fairly normal personality. There's just something, odd about her that I can't put my finger on.
Eventually we go on a second date. Over text she tells me she wants to go somewhere fun. She tells me she wants to go to a loud, dark, crowded bar or dance club where she can people watch. She jokingly says where she doesn't have to talk and make eye contact.
I meet her and try to go for a hug but she's not having it. We go to a chill bar that would be very good for a date and good for conversation, I try to get her to play pool with me but she refuses to play pool. We finish our drinks and she says she doesn't like it because it's not crowded enough. she gets jealous of this girl that keeps eyeing me. I tell her she probably thinks I'm an asshole because you're not looking at me or even engaging me. She jokes and says we should make out right then and there to get the girl that's eyeing me jealous. She puckers up but jokingly.
The entire time we're walking between bar to bar she seems pissed. I ask her if she's alright and tells me she hates when people ask her that because she just normally looks like that.
We go on to a different loud, dark, dance club which is terrible for game. I get us drinks. I ask her to dance. She tells me she doesn't dance unless she's blackout drunk and won't dance. And she doesn't wanna drink more than a beer.
So we're in the middle of a dance club, I'm standing next to her, she's standing just looking. At some points it did not even seem to the casual observer like we were together, or that perhaps she hated me. It was awkward. At some points I'd try to lead her by touching the small of her back and she'd tell me to stop touching her or not to touch her. Any attempt to engage her on any fucking level would fail.
For example, she told me she had to wake up early to go somewhere with her sister, I ask her, "oh what are you guys gonna do" and she doesn't want to tell me or says no to any sort of question I ask. She was like a brick wall. At the same time I'm sure she likes me. I'm flabbergasted. We ended up in one last club where she continued to stand around and just look at people, I standing beside her. She was acting like everything was cool between us which confused the fuck out of me even more.
By the end of the night my inner game was crushed by this girl and I felt awful about myself. She was impossibly difficult to engage on any level....yet she liked me....I couldn't understand it. It I told her we should leave soon. We walked quietly to the parking lot. I walked her to her car and said see ya and left. I'm sure we could have made out but I wasn't in a bad head space. I don't understand this girl. By the end of the night I was deeply upset because I genuinely liked her.
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