Quote: (02-01-2015 05:01 PM)Cheetah Wrote:
I'm more like I can approach without problem but in some few and seldom cases when the girl seems like the type I really want I could internalise that I shouldn't approach for whatever reason. It's not like I in that moment don't have the guts to approach, it's more like I internalise that it's wrong for whatever reason to in this case approach. Of course this internalising ends once the girl is gone. Very annoying.
I feel like a complete newbie on this but I can't think of a good way to overcome this internalisation.
I can relate but I don't think it's a feeling you can ever overcome completely...you can make hundreds of approaches and it could very well linger somewhere in your mind from time to time. What helps for me is to recall the post-hesitation feeling you mentioned while she's still there...it forces me to choose between the approach and the regret, and in that case I rarely choose the regret. Of course depending on your style it may not be the ideal mentality to have during an approach but it's infinitely better than not approaching in the first place.