Quote: (02-01-2015 02:56 AM)redonion Wrote:
Travesty - 1 or 2 guy friends.
That's 1 or 2 too many, if you are going to LTR a girl.
Quote: (02-01-2015 12:44 PM)Sonsowey Wrote:
Then I got involved with another girl, long-term, and suddenly, my mind was on her.
I really like this observation by Sonsowey because I see it as poking a hole into the mirage that's "The One". The concept of "The One" means there are no others and could "never be" any others. Otherwise they are just "one of the many".
I've seen many friends and family member's fall in and out of love over and over. After hearing them gush about their new interest I would ask, "Oh, well what about so-and-so (the ex)? I remember how much you adored them." They would then dismiss that ex by saying something like, "Oh that? That was just infatuation, puppy-love, a phase, etc...but this, this is real!"
Ummm...ok, let's check back in a few years.
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"The One" seems to just be the current person our mind, heart, loins, hopes and dreams are fixed on right now. The seeing of that and most especially while you are in the midst of it can give you a very real power over it, instead of it over you.
redonion, when you are ready you will find that new girl who just does it for you. When you do you will look back and laugh, "I can't believe I was all broken up about her". Doesn't seem like it now, but it's a guarantee. Paradoxically "The One" is the very medicine for the sickness it causes.