Quote: (01-30-2015 04:39 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
I just use the very classics one: "Let's go grab a drink at my place, you'll get to taste the best cocktails ever" I usually talked about me being a bartender with girl so that works.
Or the last time, I just said "Let's get out of this club, we can come to my pad, put on some music and have a drink"
The whole reason I started this thread is because I feel like this: If the girl refused to bounce to your pad, it's because she IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU.
That's why I ask you guys if it's even worth it to counter offer because I feel like if she declines, it's usually fucked already and there's no need to push.
To be honest every time a girl bounce back to my crib the reason is really lame. Some of them don't drink. Some of them don't even dance. But they bounce anyway. They are already down to fuck and just need plausible deniability to head over.
So if she bounces, don't fuck up. If she declines, it's not even worth trying.
But maybe I got it all wrong. I'm open for all suggestions.
@Heavy: that's some great way to "save face" so that she doesn't really "refuse" you. Psychologically speaking, if you can get people to say yes to small things, they will say yes to big things. Conversely, the more she says no to you, the harder it gets. I'm talking about the real "no" not the "no means yes" no. This is called the "one foot in the door" effect in psych.
@Wire: what reward? I split on all my dates. Or its usually I pay at one venue and she pays at the next. So yeah if I don't venue change I actually lose out on some $ lol. That's what I love about French girls. They never expect you to pay but they won't fight you if you offer to pay.
Food venues in France also have lots of opportunity to kino escalate. I always sit next to my date never opposite.
Perhaps i'm just more sneaky and like to prod more, I've had a girl say she had to get up early, yet she got up on my dick later that night.
Perhaps this is a question of building more comfort BEFORE dropping those lines.
I've had girls tell me we're not having sex BEFORE we even meet up and she's fucking me that night.
Sure, at first glance some might say "oh no dude she isn't into you, eject"
Do you ever wonder or kick yourself later realizing you could've got the bang ?
I don't want to be that guy, so I push the interaction as far as I can. Until I get a hard no or she's in my bed.
You're already out, so why not see how far it goes ?