Already lots of posts to go through in this thread, and thanks everyone for your input - even the most harshest feedback is appreciated. I mean that.
Couple points of clarification:
- I'm not saying I want to get married again any time soon. All I'm saying is that I won't rule it out. My priority is myself, and my inner game, and that will be so for a long time. If I don't meet anyone I don't consider worthy of marriage (or just having kids with sans marriage), then I don't get married or have kids. And I'm going to be fine with that.
- I don't deny that I am at least partially responsible for where I am now. *I* picked her, *I* chose to marry her, *I* ceded too much to our relationship. I am not responsible for her affair, however - that was HER choice that only benefited herself. Now I am making my choice that only benefits myself. I made a big mistake, and I'm gonna own it.
- My divorce is not yet final. But I did have a long conversation with my attorney and he laid down the facts with me. No child support, no alimony, and no splitting my retirement. Even if she contests the divorce, there's nothing she can do to stop the divorce or the sale of the house. All she can do is drag it out for several more months. But it will end the same way, regardless. And yes, I'm relatively lucky compared to other divorced dads who get screwed in the family courts, but divorce ain't cheap.
Couple points of clarification:
- I'm not saying I want to get married again any time soon. All I'm saying is that I won't rule it out. My priority is myself, and my inner game, and that will be so for a long time. If I don't meet anyone I don't consider worthy of marriage (or just having kids with sans marriage), then I don't get married or have kids. And I'm going to be fine with that.
- I don't deny that I am at least partially responsible for where I am now. *I* picked her, *I* chose to marry her, *I* ceded too much to our relationship. I am not responsible for her affair, however - that was HER choice that only benefited herself. Now I am making my choice that only benefits myself. I made a big mistake, and I'm gonna own it.
- My divorce is not yet final. But I did have a long conversation with my attorney and he laid down the facts with me. No child support, no alimony, and no splitting my retirement. Even if she contests the divorce, there's nothing she can do to stop the divorce or the sale of the house. All she can do is drag it out for several more months. But it will end the same way, regardless. And yes, I'm relatively lucky compared to other divorced dads who get screwed in the family courts, but divorce ain't cheap.