Quote: (09-16-2011 08:13 AM)Gmac Wrote:
Quote: (09-16-2011 07:03 AM)Andreas Wrote:
Quote: (09-15-2011 12:39 PM)Gmac Wrote:
Flirting and being friendly should basically be the same weapon in your arsenal -- there should be no difference. You need to talk to every girl the same way, not flip a switch because they aren't popular or your type. This is the kind of mindset you need to have for yourself. They should never really know if you're just being friendly or not, that's the whole game.
So i should make rapport, escalate physically but i shouldn't ask them out on a date? Or not go for kiss?
Anyways, the question is, is it better to try seducing girls out of school(unknown randoms) rather than in-school girls?
I'm saying your interactions with all girls should be the same up to that point where you want to escalate it beyond just talking. The reason I brought that up was because you were trying to "befriend" cute girls just because they weren't popular. Why would you treat them any differently from the others?
If you approach all girls the same way people will realize that is just the way you are and it will make it easier for girls to be comfortable talking to you. When I go out I don't treat a hot girl any different than an average one. If I'm not interested, I end the conversation on my terms.
You also never know how one person could introduce you to someone else, and vice versa.
Your goal shouldn't really be to "befriend" any girls, you want to have the mindset that they're lucky to be talking to you... without the smugness. Betas befriend girls and become orbiters, alphas are friendly with everyone and take what they want. Stop worrying so much about the details. Right now you need to focus on becoming a conversationalist. If a date comes out of something... great, but I don't think you're quite at that level yet from what I've heard (correct me if I'm wrong)... especially if you're trying to "go for the kiss" with random girls in school before knowing the basics of human interactions. Nothing personal, I call it like I see it.
No offense taken, i'm sure you saw a lot of beginers like me, still young and stupid wanting to be older and wiser.
Sometimes i have trouble with all the terminology about what Alpha and Beta do.