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(01-07-2015 01:45 PM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:  

I'm still having trouble discerning between polite/nice girls and attracted girls. Especially if you are daygaming at a social activity or community events the girls tend to be extra nice but that doesn't always mean she's interested.

So far the only way I have to circumvent this is to push for an instant date, failing that get a number. I don't even like getting numbers anymore. Girls give them to everyone and texting un-attracted girls is a waste of time.

Anyone wanna chime in?

I got a ton of numbers this year...but very few bangs from them. Honestly, I only got one bang from getting numbers in the day time.

My others came from tinder.

To break it down....here's how my numbers usually turn out.

1. Get the number - text the girl later that day it was nice to meet her. She texts me back something similar. Over the course of the next few days when I reach back out....she'll give one or two conciliatory texts...but they die off quick. No date. No bang. ( my most common )

2. Get the number - text the girl later that day that it was nice to meet her. She doesn't reply. No bang.

3. Get the number - text her back and forth a few days and line up a date. Meet for a date. Go on one or two dates...maybe a kiss. No further dates...no bang. Either because I decide she's not for me or vice versa.

The really attractive girls I got numbers from this year during the daytime fall into the first two categories. No date. I did get one good looking girls number during the daytime and ended up banging her over a 2 or so month period. Turned out she was a bit of a slut. So...maybe I need to move where there's more sluts. Ha.

I live in a semi- conservative quite cliquish part of the country so girls very much care about that social circle shit. Not to mention I only hit on young women and I'm an older man.

Upon reflection and reading many other guys' inputs...most recently XXL's contributions, I'm going to employ a different game while "in set" initially.

The times I've gotten dates and more on approaches there was:
1. Attraction.
2. A decent length conversation with commonalities or a perceived similar sense of 'chemistry' within the conversation ( comfort )
3. I boldly assumed the number close and the girl was obviously wiling to comply.
4. I had a blaise don't give a shit, good humored vibe.
5. We talked about her and she also asked me questions about myself.

I think girls that are just being 'polite' have a more ungenuine way of talking to you. That is, it seems to lack warmth. When a girl is getting into you, I can kind of feel myself moving into a groove of sorts with her.

As I type this, there's a short yet built ballet type dancer girl in her early 20s furiously typing away on her MacBook pro a few tables up from me. I'll probably hit her with the laptop prop opener on the way out. I just wish this coffeeshop wasn't so quiet with everyone studying as my approach is going to stand out a little. At least the store just turned on some music for background noise though. Haha.