Quote: (01-01-2015 08:54 AM)Cobra Wrote:
fmman, welcome to the forum.
Quote: (01-01-2015 08:00 AM)fmman Wrote:
I think its crazy that she would put a man shes has known 5 minutes before me with all our 10 years + of history! Had I asked her just weeks before she admits she would have said yes.
You're making a strong assumption that "she would have said yes"; that has a basis which is manufactured in your mind, not reality. You never assume a girl says yes. When you do you put all you
r eggs in one basket and just gave it to her to drop at any moment. And you put an already inflated ego on the line. This is why self development is important. Simple but effective example is working out. You can always make an assumption that it will give you a better body because it's about YOU, not your view of someone else.
There's another assumption. You can find many girls like her and possibly even better. When you say "no other girl has come close," is that because you've been approaching girls or is that an assumption? See what I mean. You're letting your mind fuck you over.
No is the simple answer. She didn't love you. Get over it, please. Otherwise, you will not only waste posts on the forum but also your own sanity and dignity.
No she is lying then, she says she has always loved me. She blames me for letting her go two years ago. Because I was getting pressure of trying for a child from her and I felt I was being used as a sperm supply rather than a bf. I wouldn't do it.
I'm going by the fact that out of the 6 girls I have been with since I've known her, none apart from one of them gave sex anywhere close to the quality of it with her.
Yes I know I have ignored the previous advice. I guess the urge to do the 'happily ever after" thing was too great. I also felt that if I ask her at least this will have put a conclusion to it once and for all either way. I wanted all the many years of my life with woman to count for something if she had accepted. Now it looks as though I have wasted all these years for nothing. I can pull myself together and get out there dating. But I fear that the usual cycle will happen. 6 months time I will have a gf, she will have split up with her bf and she'll be contacting me again, As usual we will end up shagging. Another gf gone...