Most girls you meet and are attracted to will have boyfriends. Real usually, sometimes imaginary. What are you supposed to do about it? It's like a company looking for a new star employee. Do you think that the fact that they will likely have to "poach" this person from another company keeps them up at night? Or that they will narrow their search to only people who are not currently employed? No way . Also, I assure you, if a girl is attracted to a particular man she will not be much bothered whether he has a girlfriend or not. In fact having a girlfriend will make her more interested (pre-selection). Him being married may give her pause since she will have to risk the stigma of being a "homerecker".
Personally I don't see any moral issues with girls with boyfriends. Personal safety issues for myself, definitely, but what is a boyfriend/girlfriend exactly? There is no "ring on it". If she is up for it it really doesn't bother me. And, yes, I understand that the same thing could happen to me. I don't kid myself that I am some sort of exceptional "Alpha" who is immune to this. Actually I don't think it is possible for ANYONE to be immune, despite having to pretend and act as if they can be. But that is my theory of "relationship relativity" and I won't bore you with the details now. Basically "Its All Relative" and you face the same forces from above and below that someone much better or worse than you do. It's just that you are in a different place when facing them.
Anyway, I often meet girls with boyfriends. In my case the boyfriends are usually in another country and hemisphere, so not a physical threat. Look, everyone has needs. What is a girl supposed to do with her "boyfriend" literally half a world away? Evolutionary psychology is a lot more complex than can be written out in a few platitudes, and it is NOT true that men are naturally promiscuous and women are naturally monogamous. That is such an oversimplification that you could say it's straight up wrong, despite having value as a statement.
Personally I don't see any moral issues with girls with boyfriends. Personal safety issues for myself, definitely, but what is a boyfriend/girlfriend exactly? There is no "ring on it". If she is up for it it really doesn't bother me. And, yes, I understand that the same thing could happen to me. I don't kid myself that I am some sort of exceptional "Alpha" who is immune to this. Actually I don't think it is possible for ANYONE to be immune, despite having to pretend and act as if they can be. But that is my theory of "relationship relativity" and I won't bore you with the details now. Basically "Its All Relative" and you face the same forces from above and below that someone much better or worse than you do. It's just that you are in a different place when facing them.
Anyway, I often meet girls with boyfriends. In my case the boyfriends are usually in another country and hemisphere, so not a physical threat. Look, everyone has needs. What is a girl supposed to do with her "boyfriend" literally half a world away? Evolutionary psychology is a lot more complex than can be written out in a few platitudes, and it is NOT true that men are naturally promiscuous and women are naturally monogamous. That is such an oversimplification that you could say it's straight up wrong, despite having value as a statement.