Quote: (11-10-2014 05:54 AM)JayJuanGee Wrote:
Surely, OP can speak for himself on this topic. I think that he mentioned that he wanted to learn dance and to build dance skills and that getting laid would be bonuses, but NOT necessarily his main focus. Surely, it seems that OP is getting quite a bit of what he was expecting.... NONETHELESS, I agree with you Dalaran that there may be needs, from to time to reassess whether we are getting what we want out of the situation. I certainly have my times of frustration in the salsa dance scene because social circles sometimes make for much less ability to separate out girls who are down to fuck or to get some of these girls to separate themselves out for you and to be discreet (especially if both the girl and you know that neither one of you are planning to leave the salsa scene). Girls also seem to get attached once they bang you, and these kinds of feelings can be awkward when we are continuing to see each other in various venues in the salsa scene. I guess that is why i (and I think a lot of the more experienced salsa guys) tend to identify and to focus on girls who are new to the salsa dance scene.
I think I'm getting close to that breaking point where this is either going to stagnate or I'm going to get fully immersed into Latin dance. I'm leaning towards the latter. I played violin in school and was a guitarist/songwriter for years, then didn't have much time for music scenes in the past few years. Dancing has lit a fire inside of me and is re-invigorating all of my creative musical passions! I'm even picking up my guitar more often now. It has definitely added energy and confidence to my life; just learning the boldness of asking women to dance and leading them through a number is bolstering my masculine frame in a new way. I'm also getting looks of surprise and intrigue when I mention my Salsa dancing to female friends, coworkers and strangers. In fact, I think it was thee conversation topic that helped me pull a few dates with one girl outside of the Salsa scene recently. It's like an automatic "coolness" image shaper and conversation fodder. I know we've hijacked this thread into dance/music in a forum for dating/game advice, but this hobby is definitely helping my vibe and therefore my game.
Salsa is challenging indeed, I still have a long way to go. Some days, I feel a resistance to go out, as if I'm not going to be able to get a handle on it and break in; but once I get out of my house and down to the club or studio social, the momentum and excitement carries me from there. I've danced with at least 2-3 different girls at each event and met a few cool Salsa wingmen. Right now, I'm breaking it down as a need for muscle memory by practicing as often as possible as well as listening to Salsa records and trying to pick out and count the beats so I at least have a clue of what to do in each song. JayJuanGee, if you think a supplement of Bachata would help my Salsa I will definitely take a class asap.
Slightly off topic, but I've also been very curious about Swing dancing, a style that is closer to my Rockabilly/Country roots. The rhythm sounds more familiar to me, but the routines look crazily complex! I don't know how many people can gain proficiency in both Salsa/Latin and Swing, but for now I'm dedicating myself to the Latin styles.
I am not sure why I did not put 2 and 2 together and get into dancing years ago when I was a working musician playing gigs and had several friends who were into Swing/Country/Mambo etc. At any rate, Salsa is re-igniting those passions to new levels and helping me break into a big new city. I'm contemplating a membership to my studio if I'm going to be taking several more private/group lessons, although if I can dedicate myself enough, at some point I can imagine not needing lessons.