Quote: (11-10-2014 04:24 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
Ok I'm finally cashing out on salsa game here. Been working on multiple salsa chicks here, all of them literally claw over me in dance class. I push the boundaries with one and she called and said she would not want to be my girlfriend (the fuck?) when I asked her out. Another girl disappear as soon as I suggest we go out.
Certainly there can be some drama with girls knowing each other, and frequently, you gotta figure out ways to rotate venues and even attempt to find girls that are NOT so embedded in the salsa scene.. that has been my preferred practice. Also, sometimes girls say stupid-ass or even crazy shit, and they are sometimes engaged in gaming or even bluffing the degree of their presence in the salsa scene... in the end, you may realize that the girl does NOT know as many people as she is proclaiming to know... which is fine with me... and even better to be able to isolate.
Quote: (11-10-2014 04:24 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
This is fucked up. I run the same game on non-salsa girls and I get laid with less effort.
This is very true... sometimes these salsa girls are just NOT worth anything except dancing in order to be able to bring non-salsa girls into the salsa scene and to create the impression that you are much more popular than you really are.
Quote: (11-10-2014 04:24 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
I admit that salsa is great for constructing your image and getting your confidence up. I have tons of pictures with girls doing sexual stuff and I use that for social media sometimes. When guys see how the girls are all over you they think your the MVP and you gain a lot of status. The girls in salsa are extremely attractive, if it's any consolation.
Agreed. Can also be great to mention to a girl that you approach in starbucks... Ask her if she dances, and invite her to go salsa dancing.
or to mention to one of your classmates in college or to mention to your coworker.. People also will label you as a salsa dancer, and sometimes allow you to go on "dates" with their friends to introduce them to salsa. Certainly, I do NOT mind dancing with beginner girls and largely beginner girls are the ones with whom I have the most luck in getting a bang or maybe somewhere close to a bang (Not all situation are successful, and I have had my fair share of failed efforts).
Quote: (11-10-2014 04:24 AM)Dalaran1991 Wrote:
All of that is false positive. You are getting all that delusion without getting laid.
OP, if you want to continue taking lessons, consider this: do you REALLY enjoy dancing? Can you foresee this being a main hobby for you at the moment or near future. Otherwise what you already learn it's good enough for gaming purposes.
Surely, OP can speak for himself on this topic. I think that he mentioned that he wanted to learn dance and to build dance skills and that getting laid would be bonuses, but NOT necessarily his main focus. Surely, it seems that OP is getting quite a bit of what he was expecting.... NONETHELESS, I agree with you Dalaran that there may be needs, from to time to reassess whether we are getting what we want out of the situation. I certainly have my times of frustration in the salsa dance scene because social circles sometimes make for much less ability to separate out girls who are down to fuck or to get some of these girls to separate themselves out for you and to be discreet (especially if both the girl and you know that neither one of you are planning to leave the salsa scene). Girls also seem to get attached once they bang you, and these kinds of feelings can be awkward when we are continuing to see each other in various venues in the salsa scene. I guess that is why i (and I think a lot of the more experienced salsa guys) tend to identify and to focus on girls who are new to the salsa dance scene.