[Akula]

(10-26-2014 05:14 PM)Lizard King Wrote:  

(10-26-2014 01:55 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  

Interested in revisiting this thread. Would the consensus still agree on this?

The information in this thread is excellent.

However, it is lacking information about maintaining an LTR.

I am currently in an LTR(since December last year), and it is gradually descending in to the shit, so to speak.

Why? Because I have not focused on maintaining the emotional connection. Everything else is great. I have done quite a few things to her sexually that no one else has ever done, she likes hanging out with me. We have even talked about moving in together.

The emotional connection is crucial to maintaining an LTR. In an LTR you have to be beta sometimes, well, not total beta. It's complex, and I'm not really the right person to explain it. If I was my girlfriend would be a bit happier with me right now!

I just think that inevitably as the "Honeymoon" period wears off you're going to get less and less interested in the person and certainly the sex will go stale. While I agree you need a blend of Alpha and beta, eventually it won't matter. I typically get a little more beta as time goes on and have even used this to slowly peel away from the women I'm in mini-relationships with. Sometimes you just need to move on.

The only reason to have a serious long-term relationship IMO is if you are going to have kids with this woman. Anything else and I know it's going to end at some point, so I start thinking about an exit strategy from the get go. Women really aren't that impressive typically once you get over their looks, and inevitably they do something that means they aren't good long-term relationship candidates (at least in my experience - that's why I'm not married I guess ).

But in spite of all this I think you still need to "enjoy the moments" and just have fun with her while she's still around. But just realize that most relationships don't work out and you really don't owe here anything.