Quote: (10-12-2014 09:42 PM)YossariansRight Wrote:
The "wait and text back 'ok' or 'no prob'" tactic is the best response to these douches, especially when you get some rambling bullshit of a flake excuse. Barely type 1 or 2 words; shows they're worth zero effort.
It simply and effectively conveys your message that you couldn't give a shit; you also re-establish the frame and maintain your self respect, which is what really counts.
I rarely respond these days. as I see almost any response as being interpreted as her validation either towards reinforcing why she flaked or somehow she is better than she actually is:
- "k" = he's pissed, so glad i didnt go hes creepy anyway
- "meh" = urgh he isn't worth it I can do so much better
- "pity" = he's hung up on me
then if I ignore her I will quote an actual conversation from a girl who flaked, I ignored then she contacted me again:
Her; Hey how are you?
Me; fine thanks
Her; ok, do you want to catch up?
Me; no
Her; jeez where did that come from? so rude
over exaggerating for the sake of emphasis but not by much. the female rationale galvanises her against any hint that SHE might be the problem so I find it better not to reply. in the case of the girl who flaked and I ignored it didn't click that I could be not interested and somehow it was me being rude which highlights how their existence is quite the bubble.