There is another way to look at this. Sometimes when you miss an opportunity you dodge a bullet and get a better opportunity. How do you know this girl wouldn't have been a disaster?
I remember when I was 17 and a group of us got together to play mini golf. The girl I wanted to go with, Jaime, couldn't make it. I was really bummed, but one of the girls in the group randomly called her (female) friend last-minute.
That last-minute replacement ended up being my longtime g/f and the girl I'd lose my virginity with a few months later. The original girl, Jaime, hit the wall by 19 and was trouble in other ways.
So, missed opportunity = better opportunity. This also happened with jobs. It's hard to see this stuff until you have some hindsight.
I remember when I was 17 and a group of us got together to play mini golf. The girl I wanted to go with, Jaime, couldn't make it. I was really bummed, but one of the girls in the group randomly called her (female) friend last-minute.
That last-minute replacement ended up being my longtime g/f and the girl I'd lose my virginity with a few months later. The original girl, Jaime, hit the wall by 19 and was trouble in other ways.
So, missed opportunity = better opportunity. This also happened with jobs. It's hard to see this stuff until you have some hindsight.