When she asked if you were going to buy her something
- she was cutely asking for a tip
- she wanted to play
Your response
- may have been interpreted as you being cheap
- she realizes that you're not a door mat, but she actually wants a door mat
Her response
- bringing in the bartender, suggests that she was weirdly but honestly offended
- closing out your tab and not getting you a beer was probably spiteful and unprofessional
Later on
- she still remembers how you "dissed" her.
Now I'm assuming that you weren't being rude in some other way or at some other time, and that she wasn't having a bad day. (most bartenders I know can drink for free, lol)
But in terms of game theory, she should have taken what you said as an invitation to flirt.
She didn't.
Thus this question.
Which should tell you that on the long graph of game interactions, you have outliers, and this was one of them.
I've flirted with plenty of bartenders the same way, and usually that's all it is, flirtation to get a better tip out of me.
WIA
- she was cutely asking for a tip
- she wanted to play
Your response
- may have been interpreted as you being cheap
- she realizes that you're not a door mat, but she actually wants a door mat
Her response
- bringing in the bartender, suggests that she was weirdly but honestly offended
- closing out your tab and not getting you a beer was probably spiteful and unprofessional
Later on
- she still remembers how you "dissed" her.
Now I'm assuming that you weren't being rude in some other way or at some other time, and that she wasn't having a bad day. (most bartenders I know can drink for free, lol)
But in terms of game theory, she should have taken what you said as an invitation to flirt.
She didn't.
Thus this question.
Which should tell you that on the long graph of game interactions, you have outliers, and this was one of them.
I've flirted with plenty of bartenders the same way, and usually that's all it is, flirtation to get a better tip out of me.
WIA