@Hardy Daytona, thank you for sharing your experiences! It’s great that you are trying to go about your endeavours with a tabula rasa, though at the same time you are not afraid to acknowledge that the inner demons still exert an influence from time to time. You use them as a stepping stone in order to maximize your potential with regard to gaming and other aspects of life, which is commendable.
@Dr Howard, I totally agree, intergender bullying with the involvement of girls could be extremely uncomfortable/emotionally draining and it’s harder to deal with than regular bullying. I concur with the sentiment that women are usually more attentive when it comes to one’s emotional condition and may be very observant with regard to nagging injuries/illnesses, though luckily on most occasions such vulnerabilities prompt them to provide a comforting shoulder or a receptive ear rather than put you down. If you are attracted to a girl, but her friend does not seem to like you, your task increases in difficulty, as you have to (usually) win them over (the two of them). On the plus side, from the very outset it may be an indication as to how much your love interest values you/is willing to go against the judgement of her friend and the constraints of group-think.
@Thomas the Rhymer, I agree that most bullies are not interested in engaging in a serious tussle and demonstrating your fighting prowess (without hurting anyone) could suddenly propel you up the social ladder and make you a less appealing target. The good thing about bullying is that it’s often ritualized and even predictable, so unexpected aggression/catching you by surprise is rarely a facet of it.
My interest in the issue of bullying and its effects on game peaked after reading the HP books, as they seemed to implicitly suggest that Professor Severus Snape had developed a “beta personality” and found it hard to relate to girls due to his bullying troubles in high school. Of course Snape is by no means an unequivocally moral character, so it’s certainly perfectly valid to look for explanations connected to his inner disposition when analyzing the reasons behind the treatment he received.
@Dr Howard, I totally agree, intergender bullying with the involvement of girls could be extremely uncomfortable/emotionally draining and it’s harder to deal with than regular bullying. I concur with the sentiment that women are usually more attentive when it comes to one’s emotional condition and may be very observant with regard to nagging injuries/illnesses, though luckily on most occasions such vulnerabilities prompt them to provide a comforting shoulder or a receptive ear rather than put you down. If you are attracted to a girl, but her friend does not seem to like you, your task increases in difficulty, as you have to (usually) win them over (the two of them). On the plus side, from the very outset it may be an indication as to how much your love interest values you/is willing to go against the judgement of her friend and the constraints of group-think.
@Thomas the Rhymer, I agree that most bullies are not interested in engaging in a serious tussle and demonstrating your fighting prowess (without hurting anyone) could suddenly propel you up the social ladder and make you a less appealing target. The good thing about bullying is that it’s often ritualized and even predictable, so unexpected aggression/catching you by surprise is rarely a facet of it.
My interest in the issue of bullying and its effects on game peaked after reading the HP books, as they seemed to implicitly suggest that Professor Severus Snape had developed a “beta personality” and found it hard to relate to girls due to his bullying troubles in high school. Of course Snape is by no means an unequivocally moral character, so it’s certainly perfectly valid to look for explanations connected to his inner disposition when analyzing the reasons behind the treatment he received.