Quote: (09-05-2014 12:24 PM)XXL Wrote:
Besides that, cold approach game is not hard, it's just super RANDOM. Random people meeting each other at random situations and all of them are outside for a reason. Meeting someone in daytime is like a clash of two worlds, yours and hers. That's why it is hard, not because girls wait there for us to be picked up and then play games with us for their own amusement like a cruel little bitches.
I like this mentality a lot. Girls love random. When I open a girl and preface with "I know this is random but..." she'll usually listen.
I find it useful for a daygamer to focus on two things during his journeys after getting some hours logged in: expectation and vibe.
Whatever form of game a guy uses, when he discovers a novel method, he wants to believe that it's an easier ROI than what he's already tried. That's fine. Men work to be lazy, that's why the wheel and computer macros were made.
I think the most unique polarizing aspect of daygame is there's no excuse. You can drop out of the game to build a lifestyle "for you". You can get drunk and have fun at a club and dance "for you". But what can daygame do "for you"? You can cloak it in running errands. You can tell yourself "I'll approach if it's on my way". Maybe daygame can weasel for you:
Daygame is the ultimate freedom. No one's holding your hand, no one has any expectation that you need to have fun, there's no to-do list that comes with the territory. It's just you looking at fear and rejection in the eye. You make every effort along the way. You need to understand the logic while being able to free flow out of it at a moment's notice.
While at night you and the girl can let the environment help you lead ("this is fun, we're drunk on a nice couch groping each other in 2 minutes"), in the day you will get more upfront resistance. Your mind doesn't want to plow through all this and wants to revert back to safe logic. You need to balance enjoying the moment while being mindful of her reaction.
I used to think a girl was hitting me with these 'shittests' by not complying but then I realized she doesn't know what the hell to do. It's not a club, it's 4pm. She has to go, she has a life and you're randomly entering it, so the onus is on you. And even if you give it your best, there's no guarantee. Oh well, there goes another one.
"Game", "self dev", "lifestyle management" or whatever men do to give them purpose and have pussy around them requires time and effort. I think long-term daygame appeals to guys with certain characteristics: introspective, sociable, determined, flexible, good runner (maybe).
Looking at the bottom right of my Mastery copy are the words "Sigma Wolf. Predatory. Precise. Perfected." A sigma genuinely doesn't worry about social hierarchy and won't ask himself "what will those people think?" A wolf prowls for flesh. He's not going to meet the girl of his dreams, he's going stock up. The whole process has a logic to it and is only understood through practice by understanding fundamentals and then playing with them through flow and fun.
Guys think of daygame as an environmental thing, and while it is, the attitude is what carries it. On my "on" days I feel like I'm on fire. My "off" days make me feel like I never heard of any of this stuff ever. Unlike in a nightclub where last call changes everything, daygame can feel like it goes on forever so you have to be your own boss. It's ok to not open every single set in existence. But if you're taking a 5 hour break when you feel like meeting a girl, you should ask yourself what you really want. Is that girl really a bitch? She hasn't done anything yet. We need to examine our thoughts honestly.
Quote: (09-05-2014 05:06 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:
PS If I knew with a 80% certainty that the girls I went after would be good in bed or great to hang out with. I would be out there every week working hard but it's difficult to find the motivation to do so when you know the probability of finding one of these girls in Miami is low. Basically, as I said before, for me in Miami the juice usually isn't worth the squeeze.
Nomad, curious how much have you daygamed in Miami? I hear the nightlife there is very superficial and cutthroat. But how many of these guys are approaching smoothly in the day? What about sniping the girls before they get to the club? I've met Eastern and Northern European girls here and abroad who prefer going to Miami over NYC. Have you tried approaching them?
My mentality has been developing into little to no expectation. I can just as easily leave as I open. If I see a girl I like, I go see what the deal is. Only after I talk to her can I get an inkling into her world.
For example I stopped a bitchy looking girl last week. We ended up going out and she told me "I'm usually a total bitch to strangers, I think I even gave you a bitch face, but after you came up to me I realized this is cool. You took me out of my element and I liked that". I wish all the girls said that but my point is, minimize your approach checklists and just approach.
I don't focus on her availability (unless a guy's literally walking by her), if she's fun or a good conversationalist. All I can do is make an aesthetic judgment and tease the rest out. Rinse, repeat. The less you think about it and put pressure on the situation, the easier it starts to appear. Some people play candy crush to pass the time; I prefer flip the stone.
/occasional mental masturbation