Quote: (08-05-2014 04:59 PM)blacknwhitespade Wrote:
I've been recommended by a few people to join a dance team/take dance lessons to meet attractive, in-shape, un-inhibited girls. I'm a musician and also into fitness, so I also have a genuine interest in dancing besides meeting girls. I'm thinking Salsa and Swing.
So, for those of you who've done this, how do you go about meeting/gaming women at these places? Should I just show up or sign up for beginner lessons? The few places I've investigated so far via the web say they offer 4 beginner lessons, then go to intermediate.
Also, do you have to be careful not to be called out as a troll if they suspect you're gaming girls there?
I would NOT mind hearing a little more about you and your city (or at least the area of the country) and maybe your schedule.. whether you are taking classes once a week or more or if there are more options to get better quicker? or if you want to?
I am currently in my late 40s and I have been salsa dancing for more than 12 years, and I am in the Los Angeles area. There are a lot of salsa dance opportunities around this area, so about the first year that I was salsa dancing I took a whole hell of a lot of lessons and I rotated from location to location to location.. even going to nightclubs for one hour for the lesson and then leaving and going to salsa dance trips (many of them).
I think that in the beginning that you may have some trouble just getting down all the basics and trying to learn some good dance techniques and moves to personalize to your learning style and preferences.
If you are a fairly attractive guy, then you should NOT have problems working in game or bangs or outside activities with some of the girls that you meet from location to location. Sometimes in the very beginning you may feel a little inferior because your dance skills are developing and are NOT so great, but that is why you would work techniques to change locations and to improve your techniques and rotate girls and use those as excuses to meet with girls for "practice," and sometimes just practicing, writing down moves or video taping various dance moves in order that you can visualize executing those moves and becoming more and more smooth and skillful with the passage of time.
Why don't you describe a little bit more about your ideas and then either I can respond or other guys reading this thread can chime in to discuss some of their experiences in light of your experiences and aspirations.
My personal philosophy was in the beginning to focus on one kind of dance at a time (so I would NOT recommend mixing swing and salsa b/c they are too different.. at least in my mind... and I still do NOT dance swing)... so get good at which ever one is best in your area (the one with more venue options in your area I would recommend).
I prefer salsa for a variety of reasons, including its prevalence in LA, more ethnic diversity in the people that dance to salsa and I like the music. Actually, in the Los Angeles area Salsa clubs, they play salsa, cha cha cha, merengue and bachata... and I am proficient in all four of these (even though I learned salsa first).
You can use a lot of the same dance moves in each of the other three dance styles as long as you get the steps correct.. and figure out how to stay on the right beat.. which may be easier for you being a musician.. NONETHELESS, I have met some musicians that have difficulties getting their body to move to the beat.. so it takes practice - whether you are super talented or NOT but even if you have musical abilities, sometimes the body does NOT cooperate with the mind and you get better at developing your own style in which the girl will be able to follow if you lead it well or practice at leading it well and inspire confidence with the girl. If girls feel comfortable with you, they will follow a lot ... and even beyond the dance floor...
Well, also, if your dance community is small, that is another issue.. in which the girls may be more self conscious, and sometimes when you are learning you may need to practice with some unattractive older ladies... until you get better... but sometimes also, you can met girls and then have your own regular partner(s) so you may NOT have to spend as much time dancing with the older and/or unattractive ones.. I personally will dance with anybody, even though I still will gravitate towards the more attractive younger girls (as do the other guys in the scene).