"If my answers disturb you, then you should stop asking disturbing questions" -- Jules Winnifeld, "Pulp Fiction"
What would it mean if you found out she'd had a 3 way? Would it be a deal breaker if it was 2 guys? How about if < 10 means 9, and 8 of them were one night stands, the other was her BF of 5 years. Do you really want to know? Are you going to marry her if the answer meets your expectation? What does she have to lose by being truthful?
Let's face it, you met her on Tinder and did a SDL. You're either quite the seducer or you are not her first rodeo. She's 23, that's at least 5 years of sexual activity, so 10 would be 2 per year. You don't even have to ask directly, you can triangulate on this - how many LTRs has she been in? How long? What happened to end it?
What would it mean if you found out she'd had a 3 way? Would it be a deal breaker if it was 2 guys? How about if < 10 means 9, and 8 of them were one night stands, the other was her BF of 5 years. Do you really want to know? Are you going to marry her if the answer meets your expectation? What does she have to lose by being truthful?
Let's face it, you met her on Tinder and did a SDL. You're either quite the seducer or you are not her first rodeo. She's 23, that's at least 5 years of sexual activity, so 10 would be 2 per year. You don't even have to ask directly, you can triangulate on this - how many LTRs has she been in? How long? What happened to end it?