Quote: (08-01-2014 05:49 PM)Basil Ransom Wrote:
I realized that I like to be warm and friendly towards girls. That if I have to be cold to 'win' and fuck them, I end up ultimately losing.
The girls whose company I've enjoyed are girls who rewarded me and respected me more for being warm, and not less. We get too caught up in being perceived as weak or lame that we suppress ourselves and shy away from what fulfills us. That doesn't mean you should be a bitch - I still never take shit from girls.
In the evolution of my game, this is where I really fucked up.
I overlooked the fact that there is a difference between being nice and being weak.
I got burned bad once so I just stopped being nice, when I should have stopped being weak instead.
What Jariel describes is what I think all veteran players have. Every big name on this forum has a distinct style, they play their own game. It just takes time to get to that point.