0-year-old woman feels inferior to her 46-year-old b/f
07-22-2014, 09:38 PM
Hans Dix,
I agree with Horn. By 40 you can recognize their IOI's much clearer than at 21. You can also wield the power of your age and status more deftly. Status isn't a badge you are given one day. You slowly become skilled over your lifetime with its use.
I can walk up to that 20yo and just start talking. Most of the time she doesn't feel threatened and her guard is much lower than it would be with a young guy. If she cops an attitude (rare) I just give a strange look and say, 'you're young enough to be my daughter!' Shuts them right up. They think they misread your friendliness and are permanently on the defensive.
The spectrum of topics we can discuss is also more varied. For example, I can ask what she does then just start giving career advice. They always listen. It takes very little to confirm their assumptions that I am knowledgable and successful.
Also, 21yo boys step out of your way, give you space, and listen when you speak. In the rare times they don't, you can shame them very easily if you choose, or you can lean on 20 years of experience to make them look like a fool in front of a girl. The way the boys treat you is a great DHV.
Young women do have major shit tests for older men. MAJOR. I seriously believe they hold back on you younger guys. But EVERYTHING is fair game with someone over 40. But you have 20 years of experience in how to deal with it. And since a woman's infatuation is proportional to the level of shit tests you pass, you can sink your hooks much deeper than the younger guys.
All that being said, not one of us older guys wouldn't go back to 21 if we could. Ha
Tornado
I agree with Horn. By 40 you can recognize their IOI's much clearer than at 21. You can also wield the power of your age and status more deftly. Status isn't a badge you are given one day. You slowly become skilled over your lifetime with its use.
I can walk up to that 20yo and just start talking. Most of the time she doesn't feel threatened and her guard is much lower than it would be with a young guy. If she cops an attitude (rare) I just give a strange look and say, 'you're young enough to be my daughter!' Shuts them right up. They think they misread your friendliness and are permanently on the defensive.
The spectrum of topics we can discuss is also more varied. For example, I can ask what she does then just start giving career advice. They always listen. It takes very little to confirm their assumptions that I am knowledgable and successful.
Also, 21yo boys step out of your way, give you space, and listen when you speak. In the rare times they don't, you can shame them very easily if you choose, or you can lean on 20 years of experience to make them look like a fool in front of a girl. The way the boys treat you is a great DHV.
Young women do have major shit tests for older men. MAJOR. I seriously believe they hold back on you younger guys. But EVERYTHING is fair game with someone over 40. But you have 20 years of experience in how to deal with it. And since a woman's infatuation is proportional to the level of shit tests you pass, you can sink your hooks much deeper than the younger guys.
All that being said, not one of us older guys wouldn't go back to 21 if we could. Ha
Tornado