Quote: (07-21-2014 02:29 PM)RockHard Wrote:
Quote: (07-21-2014 01:44 PM)pro14 Wrote:
getting older. I'm 37, white, 6' 0 athletic but not built. decent looking but as one of my older male friends and sort of a mentor - says - who gives a fuck about that lol. im clean cut, don't smoke, have good hygiene, im smart and work in management - drink socially and like going out...I feel like im in my 20's! I have a lot of good tools, but as I look around, I find that women or even people just aren't interested.
is it my look, my personality - i'm nice, I smile - friendly - not extremely outgoing but I laugh a lot and look pleasant. I feel like my life and me - may be boring to outsiders and I don't have much to offer other people - I don't feel connected like a lot of people are.
37 is a bit young to be writing off online, but you need to be ready for that transition. At 35 you start to fall off a lot of girls' filters.
My advice is to daygame. Always be on the lookout, and if you see a girl that stirs something in you, talk to her. The grocery store, Starbucks, out and about, talk to them.
Quote: (07-21-2014 01:44 PM)pro14 Wrote:
getting older. I'm 37, white, 6' 0 athletic but not built. decent looking but as one of my older male friends and sort of a mentor - says - who gives a fuck about that lol. im clean cut, don't smoke, have good hygiene, im smart and work in management - drink socially and like going out...I feel like im in my 20's! I have a lot of good tools, but as I look around, I find that women or even people just aren't interested.
How do you know they aren't interested? Do you ask them out and they say "not interested"? Or are you just not getting eye contact or not able to keep a conversation going?
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is it my look, my personality - i'm nice, I smile - friendly - not extremely outgoing but I laugh a lot and look pleasant. I feel like my life and me - may be boring to outsiders and I don't have much to offer other people - I don't feel connected like a lot of people are.
Dude, the attributes you list are not what's going to spark a girl's interest. They won't spark anyone's interest. If you're writing an online dating profile and this is what you said, it's no wonder you're not having any luck. Every guy is a nice, smiling, friendly, pleasant, social drinker. That is not going to make her want to fuck you. If that was attractive, there's 600 other guys in line ahead of you. You need to have an edge, you need to have a core of yourself that doesn't belong to your employer or some imaginary woman who you want to fuck.
You need to be intriguing, not like every other guy. I'm looking at all the qualifications and here's the thing: you're a pleasant clean cut middle manager guy. So boring. Don't be that guy. That's the guy who gets the paycheck, but be the guy who has something going for him besides a mortgage and a 401K. Who is pro14?
Do you have any hobbies? If you want to build a set of friends, find something to do and then work on getting a group of guys to do it with. Tell us what you're into, or what you're not into yet but might be interested in getting into, and we can give you ideas about how to go about it. If all you're into is women & work, well, that's going to be tough.
you're right on that - my life's too focused on a limited number of things so my hobbies are lacking. I go to the gym solo and don't usually talk to people there. its my own fault not pushing myself out there - with hobbies and with creating the environment I want to be around me. I am a little or a lot beat down - but recognize this and want to change
when you approach in day game, what do you do or say that shows 'you' or makes you come across as intriguing? I could easily do a lot of day game at lunchtime at work - lots of places around. that may be a good place to start pushing