I've been in quite a few longer-term relationships. 6 or more that lasted 1 1/2 - 3 years (I'm early 30s), and some shorter. I've also banged more women than most guys will even while tying myself down for so long so many times.
I learned much more about sex due to those more drawn out experiences than I ever did in casual one-night-stands. As well as about how to talk with (and connect with) women and how to maintain the upper hand at all times (or at least regain it when you lose hold).
Your out-of-the-gate game can go a bit stagnant if you stay in relationships too long without playing the field from time to time. I also find 6 months is about how long it takes for the novelty to wear off for me, but I guess it depends on how into the girl you are. Without these relationships, I'm not so sure I'd have the sexual knowledge and vibe with women that I currently do, and I've never really put an honest effort into the game stuff, so you could say those experiences gave me a natural understanding of gender dynamics.
It's hard to say - perhaps I would have picked up those intuitive understandings anyhow - but I think the guy makes a good point.
On the other hand, you could probably say that without all my flings and pickups during my off-times, my game would be a lot different as well. I'm sure both types of experiences have their value.
I've also seen how some guys get addicted to "managomy" and are constantly having girls break up with them and then running around like a broken-hearted chump, only to dive back into another relationship as soon as the opportunity presents. So it's possible to lose yourself out there too.
Apply so-called red pill thinking to your relationship maintenance and you should be alright. And know when it's time to walk away.
I learned much more about sex due to those more drawn out experiences than I ever did in casual one-night-stands. As well as about how to talk with (and connect with) women and how to maintain the upper hand at all times (or at least regain it when you lose hold).
Your out-of-the-gate game can go a bit stagnant if you stay in relationships too long without playing the field from time to time. I also find 6 months is about how long it takes for the novelty to wear off for me, but I guess it depends on how into the girl you are. Without these relationships, I'm not so sure I'd have the sexual knowledge and vibe with women that I currently do, and I've never really put an honest effort into the game stuff, so you could say those experiences gave me a natural understanding of gender dynamics.
It's hard to say - perhaps I would have picked up those intuitive understandings anyhow - but I think the guy makes a good point.
On the other hand, you could probably say that without all my flings and pickups during my off-times, my game would be a lot different as well. I'm sure both types of experiences have their value.
I've also seen how some guys get addicted to "managomy" and are constantly having girls break up with them and then running around like a broken-hearted chump, only to dive back into another relationship as soon as the opportunity presents. So it's possible to lose yourself out there too.
Apply so-called red pill thinking to your relationship maintenance and you should be alright. And know when it's time to walk away.
Beyond All Seas
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling