Quote: (08-04-2011 12:40 AM)TheWolfHowls Wrote:
I think the key is to be a guy who doesn't take their shit. I think a guy can be easy going, fun loving and have a good time BUT if a girl tries to act bitchy or try to have him do stuff, he doesn't play that.
Girls call any type of guy who has backbone and won't buy into her frame an asshole lol. Some guys read the article she mentions and they just become full out dicks and don't get the pussy either.
Agreed. A lot of noobs to the game think it's all about being an asshole. I've seen a few new players in action with serious calibration and congruence issues when going all out asshole. Sometimes it works. It's usually better than what they were doing before. So they keep doing it. But it also holds them back and they can't relax around women.
You can tease, make her feel good, stand firm and not take any shit without being an asshole. She might call you an asshole for it, but that's just because you're defying her expectations and she'll love you for doing so. There's a lot of middle ground between being a pushover and an asshole. It comes down to what style suits you best.
I use direct asshole moves very sparsely, though the occasional one never hurts.
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