Quote: (07-16-2014 07:37 PM)Quintus Curtius Wrote:
Jay:
At the risk of sounding like a heartless prick, I'm going to be honest with you. I see you joined the Forum in April. Thank you for joining, and I think you will find a wealth of resources here for men who genuinely interested in self-improvement, skills with women, camaraderie, knowledge, and the like.
Threads are not appropriate for personal musings.
In my opinion, it's very bad etiquette to join a new organization, and then as a new member with only 20 posts, to dump your personal problems on everyone. It's attention-seeking, dramatic, and extremely egotistical. We don't know you. You have offered nothing tangible yet to the community, and yet expect us to listen to your traumatic outpourings. You haven't earned the right yet to dump your personal issues on us.
You've displayed very poor taste and lack of consideration to your fellow members.
I don't want to hear it.
You've suffered? We've all been through it in here. Pick your ass up, suck it up, and keep moving. Period.
The correct approach to take when entering a new group of men is to listen, take notes, offer comments of a positive nature at selected times, and let time take its course.
The best lesson you can learn in life is this: No one owes you anything, and no one gives a shit about your problems.
Stop complaining, and keep moving forward.
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Quintus,
Thanks for your direct response. I've followed up on your work through ROK and some other posts I've lurked through on this forum since I've joined.
I understand how this can be seen as dumping. However, I honestly wanted to contribute to the forum the only way I knew how and thats by relaying my life experiences as a learning lesson. What I am doing at the moment is just pretext. I'm setting things up. Please be patient and allow me to finish up at least the first chapter before I can be judged. Thats it. If you don't like it, i'll shut up and go back into the crowd and only contribute from the now.
Let me know.
-Jay