[The Father]

(07-03-2014 12:31 AM)polymath Wrote:  

Don't change the vibe of the interaction at the moment where you're asking for the number.

"Put your number in here" can seem kind of gruff. Make a smooth transition. I might say "hey, you want to get coffee sometime and chat" or whatever, something innocuous that gets the number in my phone, then do whatever I want from there with the number. Alternatively, say something lighthearted (in a funny way) to soften the situation. "Can I get your number? I promise I'll only call to coordinate our shoe repair schedules."

Lots of guys stop being fun when they try to close a number, kiss, or other intermediary thing, like they're taking a 3-point shot at the buzzer of a playoff game and they need to be focused and serious. To the contrary, in my experience it is better to be casual and play off the situation with little to no change in my vibe.

Excellent advice - thanks!