I think both my passive (looks, lifestyle, etc.) and active game is decent. Yet, I regularly fail quite often, even with girls and situations that should be a walk in the park for me. I knew I was missing something. So I went back and looked at the girls and situation I was successful with and in. And I think I found something that is just as important as your looks and game that we don't talk about much: intention. The times I have gone out with a very strong intention to accomplish something I usually do. When I have a very strong intention to get a certain girl, I usually do. My looks and game don't change in any of these situations BUT my intentions do.
Your intention set your state of mind and conditions it. It will be very rare that you will ever exceed your own intentions, so you want to set it high. If you are going out there without a strong intention with the idea that you will "go with flow." Guess what? You will become subject to someone else intention. In a clash of competing intentions the strongest wins. If your intention is to sleep with a girl and her intention is not to sleep with anyone, guess what? Whoever intention is strongest will win.
You always want to set your intention as high as possible. Don't go out with the mentally of getting phone numbers. Go out with the mindset that you will either have some great sex or find a girl you are crazy about. See a girl you really want. Create a strong intention to get her and your chances of doing exactly that will increase dramatically. The really powerful thing about setting an intention is that even if you don't feel like doing it, you will likely follow through. And in the face of obstacles it will give you the motivation to keep going.
But this applies not only to girls. It applies to everything in your life. Our intentions shapes our thoughts and actions and in so doing determine the outcomes in our lives. The best part of it is: that it's the easiest and cheapest thing to do! It cost nothing to set an intention. The only thing that is required is desire - our desire to achieve whatever it is we want. How powerful is a strong intention? A guy that has half the passive and active game as me but twice as strong an intention has a high probability of beating me. Or as they say in boxing: It's not the size of the man in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the man.
Your intention set your state of mind and conditions it. It will be very rare that you will ever exceed your own intentions, so you want to set it high. If you are going out there without a strong intention with the idea that you will "go with flow." Guess what? You will become subject to someone else intention. In a clash of competing intentions the strongest wins. If your intention is to sleep with a girl and her intention is not to sleep with anyone, guess what? Whoever intention is strongest will win.
You always want to set your intention as high as possible. Don't go out with the mentally of getting phone numbers. Go out with the mindset that you will either have some great sex or find a girl you are crazy about. See a girl you really want. Create a strong intention to get her and your chances of doing exactly that will increase dramatically. The really powerful thing about setting an intention is that even if you don't feel like doing it, you will likely follow through. And in the face of obstacles it will give you the motivation to keep going.
But this applies not only to girls. It applies to everything in your life. Our intentions shapes our thoughts and actions and in so doing determine the outcomes in our lives. The best part of it is: that it's the easiest and cheapest thing to do! It cost nothing to set an intention. The only thing that is required is desire - our desire to achieve whatever it is we want. How powerful is a strong intention? A guy that has half the passive and active game as me but twice as strong an intention has a high probability of beating me. Or as they say in boxing: It's not the size of the man in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the man.