Quote: (04-13-2014 09:29 AM)True Killa Wrote:
Reason for my quick assimilation in Asia? I have a strong extended family over there who hook me up with everything when I visit. For game, I don't do things I don't enjoy, so I don't do night game and I only drink a cup of wine when I do go out[...]
So do I still and I can count on all the above. Dad even had relatives from Fujian over at his place some time back (a few generations removed) so I could even count on a couch to crash on there.
That's where it ends though. Doesn't stop me from feeling like a complete outsider when I find myself in Singapore though (let alone the rest of Asia), and it does show -- in the way I speak, dress, act and think. Granted blending in and doing local shit is a travel tenet of mine, the point is I've got to make an effort to do so in my own birthplace.
Quote: (04-13-2014 09:29 AM)True Killa Wrote:Again, I think that's too sweeping a generalisation. I segue into the classy thing pretty well myself. Sorry I refuse to believe that all of America is simply "bars, beer, clubbing, pizza, or football".
The thing with being assimilated in the US is that I don't enjoy most of the things that Americans do. I don't like bars, beer, clubbing, pizza, or football. I like classy dinner, fine wine, and wearing nice suits. Like an Asian Bond. I actually don't care about being assimilated if it means doing things I don't want to do.
Even in Melbourne I could throw a stick and it would hit a hundred people that couldn't give a rat's arse about AFL, shopping sprees at Westfield or getting shitfaced at Crown every weekend.
Have you tried moving in circles frequented by classy people? Attended charity balls, join a yacht club or a theatre society?
You want to score with someone appreciative of class, I guess you'll have to approach whether classy types frequent.
Maybe that's your real dilemma, more so than skin colour?
Quote: (04-13-2014 09:29 AM)True Killa Wrote:You're starting to answer questions bit by bit. From the picture I'm seeing it doesn't seem like race is the issue here. At least, not the deal breaker
Again, it's not because I am not getting any actions. It's about not getting enough action for the amount of work that I put in. Which was immediately apparent when I went to Asia and killed it, and I also do well with non-American women in the US, both Asians and Europeans. If that tells you anything. But I feel like I am in a niche market and would like to go mainstream, if you get what I am saying.