Quote: (03-14-2014 03:00 AM)anonymous123 Wrote:
Distant Light - it sounds like we have had similar benders. I'd bet there are others out there among us that have had similar situations.
What I have learned is that "cold turkey" doesn't work. Whenever I declare "cold turkey" that is exactly when the heavens will strike me down and put out a situation that most wouldn't believe! (so no reason to talk about it). But, when I go with the "whatever comes my way" approach, I drink much less...and it somehow still results in 2 or 3 girls a week...
I've completely dumped my "rotation", but I've also learned that "cold turkey" usually puts me in an epic "one last time" situation. I'm now on the "whatever comes my way" plan combined with the philosophy of "when one door shuts, another door opens." [This is mainly in reference to keeping a FWB around...if you have them, it often results in a missed opportunity while you are banging the FWB.]
Hahaahha I agreed, it's what essentially messed me up (and also ended up having anal sex for the first time which I said I'd never do.) The "one last time" vibe is exactly what I felt over and over.
I've begun to handle this by staying completely inside with the intention of doing it for a few weeks in order to handle other aspects of my life. However, 5 days in I can already feel the urge "dude john digiweed is playing, you've never heard him DJ just go!! You don't need to meet anyone, you've been looking forward to this."
However, I'm trying to be more disciplined