Quote: (03-08-2014 10:43 AM)Timbuk2 Wrote:
No, I'm not trolling. I've gotten with a number of really beautiful, talented, hilarious women over the years (if people saw a gallery of pictures of girls I've dated, they'd think I was a player. If they saw the time frame, they'd think I was a sexual camel. I wait, and wait, and when finally someone comes along and it works, I rock their world an they really fall for me. But it's all long-term stuff. I'd known the girls in advance, etc.). My issue is that I've never felt in control of who I dated. I just wound up dating people who wanted to date me (or who'd I liked and sensed would be receptive to my advances). But I've never tried to go on dates with people I didn't already have some sort of connection with. This is my first experiment with planning a relationship in advance from zero to hook-up--instead of thinking, WOW, my hot friend liked me all along and now we're making out--that's all.
I was also curious to hear input from the forum on this particular situation, just to see what other input was offered, what I might have missed, etc.
What you wrote above could apply to 99% of all guys that find their way here. It certainly resonates with me.
Same deal, before discovering game I had LTRs with very good looking girls but few and far between, and I relied on the goodwill of the universe to make things happen.
Take to heart what Vicious wrote. Over time you need to take a more dominant role, as you come off as quite passive. Forget everything you know about taking it slow or "waiting for the time to be right". That's all outdated garbage.
Forget that nonsense about anything seeming sketchy. She's a woman, you're a man. It's not weird or sketchy unless you make it that way.
In my limited experience with French girls I've found them to be some of the most openly sexual creatures I've ever encountered.