[speakeasy]

As much as I've learned about the game(on paper), I have not gotten over my fear of approach. The only time I can approach is if I have some obvious indicator that the girl is interested. Maybe she smiles, or I catch her glance at me or gives some other subtle indicator of interest. I admit that rarely comes these days. If I get no IOIs, I have too much fear to approach. That's something I've yet to get over and I'm trying to figure out how to get past that. Growing up, I was always the type of dude that was shy with girls. In my teenage years, I couldn't even get up the courage to talk to a girl even there were IOIs. Well I eventually got the point that I could talk to and lay a girl who was initially interested in me. But my sticking point is being able to make a girl interested who was not initially interested. I'm never going to have success with women and dating if I can't get past this hurdle.