Quote: (02-10-2014 03:16 AM)Vaughn Wrote:
This scenario is from a couple years ago but I was thinking about it a lot today for some reason, and I still don't know what would be the red pill/alpha way to have handled it:
I was in the Caribbean for a destination wedding. The whole group went out on a boat ride one afternoon. We took a bus to the dock and back. On the way back, a single girl sat next to me (I was the only single guy and there were like 5-6 single women, which I thought would work to my favor on this trip but it did not). So she sits down but immediately turns her back to me so she can chat with her girlfriends across the aisle and the whole ride back to the hotel never faced forward (nor toward me). I just sat there quietly most of the trip, chatted maybe 30 seconds with the couple behind me, and felt like a loser. Basically felt "walled off" by her backside from any conversation/ boxed out like in basketball. It was a kick to the ego and it kinda ruined the rest of my night (blue pill I know but that's how it went down).
So, is there something I could've done differently there?
This girl was probably the most attractive of the half dozen single females (which isn't saying much, she'd rate a 6.5 imo). Not sure that's relevant here, but just throwing it in...
"So, is there something I could've done differently there?"
Yeah, you could have moved. Swapped seats with someone or just found another seat nearer someone you knew. Taking initiative is part of being Alpha. And it also would have sent a big "fuck you" message to the girl. You could have even coughed and shaken your head when you walked away, giving her the impression she smelled bad and that's why you moved (I've done this -- works wonders).
But by the way, I've found "cold shoulders" are not necessarily a female thing. Some of the biggest freeze-outs I've gotten have been from guys who were probably intent on keeping their cliques tight. These tend to be non-masculine super-liberal "artiste" types, for what that's worth.