Quote: (02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:Yep! Also difference between creating attraction and being attractive.
I mean that I don't qualify myself by talking about my achievements, only if it's in a certain context and 'by chance'. To say very simplistically (and I'm sure you don't do this) just to make it clear, instead of saying "I'm funny" be funny or instead of saying "I'm intelligent" be intelligent.
That's what people should work on.
Quote: (02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:Yep agreed! IOIs and Investment.
Solid attraction: the above + she laughs with everything you say, she makes efforts to keep the interaction going (filling in silences, ignoring her friends, etc.), she squeezes back when holding hands (oldschool but works), she holds eye-contact with you with excited eyes, her body-language is directed towards you and she doesn't care much what is happening around her, etc.
The word solid was just a little confusing at first.
Quote: (02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:We're not on the same page but on a similar one.
I'm not contradicting myself, read again.
Not enough attraction -> attraction will flee
Solid attraction, i.e. she's really into you -> attraction will not flee easily
The question is what does easily mean in this context?
Looking at it differently when having a natural convo where you create attraction (let me just describe it with the word "create") you have an exchange of "info" sooner or later. This exchange of "info" has elements of qualification and comfort.
Depending on the situation it can actually still go away quickly.
Let's not consider a snl and a situation where you have to get into touch with her again. With good HBs a little bit of persistence is good but ask yourself when you're replaced by the next guy that also creates solid attraction.
Thought: Guys and sex is freely available 24/7 and you're just the next one. If I see pussy everyday and can also have it it's not special anymore. To keep me interested the attraction level has to be suuuuper high.