[Smooth Operator]

(02-07-2014 07:24 AM)SwayMe Wrote:  

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

So what if that's a frame of mind? A frame doesn't get translated into actions? A frame can't trigger feelings into a woman?

Maybe that was my english. What I meant is have an non-needy attitude from the start to the end.

Indeed

(02-07-2014 07:24 AM)SwayMe Wrote:  

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

Actions speak louder than words, IMO. But I know some guys who use sexual qualification, and it works for them.

Don't understand what you mean.

I mean that I don't qualify myself by talking about my achievements, only if it's in a certain context and 'by chance'. To say very simplistically (and I'm sure you don't do this) just to make it clear, instead of saying "I'm funny" be funny or instead of saying "I'm intelligent" be intelligent.

(02-07-2014 07:24 AM)SwayMe Wrote:  

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

In the past I also got numbers and I thought that she was attracted to me because she was nice, smiling, laughing, even touching etc. Only after many lays I now know the difference between a good interaction and real solid attraction, whereby she's really into you.

You still would have to explain of what a good interaction and real solid attraction is.

Good interaction: she was nice, smiling, laughing, even touching etc.

Solid attraction: the above + she laughs with everything you say, she makes efforts to keep the interaction going (filling in silences, ignoring her friends, etc.), she squeezes back when holding hands (oldschool but works), she holds eye-contact with you with excited eyes, her body-language is directed towards you and she doesn't care much what is happening around her, etc.

(02-07-2014 07:24 AM)SwayMe Wrote:  

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

Attraction is fleeting when there just wasn't enough attraction. When she's really into you, the attraction will not go away that quickly.

You're contradicting yourself. "the attraction will not go away that quickly." doesn't mean it stays forever which means that it will go away sooner or later and that's excately what I'm saying.

I'm not contradicting myself, read again.
Not enough attraction -> attraction will flee
Solid attraction, i.e. she's really into you -> attraction will not flee easily