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(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

My game improved a lot when I quit this pattern: attraction -> comfort -> seduction (MM).

there is no sequence. Of course you throw everything into one pot. It's just easier to explain.

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

Most of the attraction is already there through the dominance and confidence you exude, before you open your mouth to her, you only build further on the existing attraction. Then you escalate and further create sexual tension. I don't talk too much about myself, I like to have some intrigue, opening up simply kills sexual tension.

No contradiction to what i'm saying

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

What is comfort? To you it is how much the woman knows about you. To me it is that the woman feels that you're a safe guy to have sex with, who knows what he is doing, and who won't bother her afterwards in a needy fashion. For that you must be non-needy (or have the frame of being non-needy as you say it) for a certain time (i.e. time spend together; can be very short).

No contradiction to what i'm saying. One wide rapport one is deep rapport and one is just an exchange of info to make her feel safe, ...

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

So what if that's a frame of mind? A frame doesn't get translated into actions? A frame can't trigger feelings into a woman?

Maybe that was my english. What I meant is have an non-needy attitude from the start to the end.

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

Actions speak louder than words, IMO. But I know some guys who use sexual qualification, and it works for them.

Don't understand what you mean.

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

Wrong. Getting a number doesn't always mean there is attraction! Even if she's not attracted, she can still give her number (real or not), just to get rid of you, just to get another orbiter giving her attention and validation with texts and calls, just because many women don't like to say "no" in your face, etc.

You're right. If forgot this point. However If he's really good-looking then I assume a bit of attraction. Even with atttraction you can get flakes.
On this part you're right we need more info.

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

In the past I also got numbers and I thought that she was attracted to me because she was nice, smiling, laughing, even touching etc. Only after many lays I now know the difference between a good interaction and real solid attraction, whereby she's really into you.

You still would have to explain of what a good interaction and real solid attraction is.

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

First of all, attraction is not 0 or 1

That I never said.

(02-07-2014 06:54 AM)Smooth Operator Wrote:  

Attraction is fleeting when there just wasn't enough attraction. When she's really into you, the attraction will not go away that quickly.

You're contradicting yourself. "the attraction will not go away that quickly." doesn't mean it stays forever which means that it will go away sooner or later and that's excately what I'm saying.