Quote: (01-29-2014 05:35 AM)orko Wrote:
Quote: (01-28-2014 03:01 PM)AneroidOcean Wrote:
Quote: (01-27-2014 03:43 PM)orko Wrote:
I have been dating a girl i met a month ago for 2 weeks and we seem to like each other. I have already made out with this girl several times but i have realized that im the one that most of the time tries to do the initial contact to hang out or just to say hi. We went out last friday night,it was good, but i havent heard back from her. I have not contacted her since that day but what do you guys recommend, radio silence until she contacts me( so i know she is really into me)? or should i again initiate the first contact? is she just playing games with me or playing hard to catch?
thanks!
Giovonny gave you some good advice about what to do now, but I'm going to point out what got you to here. You met her a month ago and you've been dating her for two weeks. It sounds like you've seen her quite a few times since you've already made out with her "several times."
Making out is fine on the first date. Why haven't you escalated further?
The girl has either lost interest because she thinks you don't like her that much (haven't escalated physicality), or much more likely, she thinks you're a boring beta.
You know who's perfectly happy making out with a girl multiple times and doing all the contacting of a girl to hang out? A boring beta. Any reasonably cute girl will have attention from all over, from guys that want to fuck her, not from guys that just want to make out with her and be her bff plus a little tongue action.
I havent escalated further because i wanted an LTR with this girl. She is( or seemed) like a conservative and religious girl (she is from a very religious latin american country) so i didnt
want to rush things or seem like i just wanted sex...
Anyway thanks for your comments, i will just forget this girl, i dont gain anything for myself being contacting her all the time and getting evasive answers or nothing...
i also forgot one of the greatest commandments in dealing with girls:
"Dont care about what the girl says, care about what they do.."
As roissy would say, LTRs should flow from sex, not the other way around. Once you've banged her you will have the emotional advantage - you can "confer" upon her a relationship should you choose.
What i've noticed about all girls - having recently dated a hardcore catholic who wanted to wait until marriage to lose her v card (and she was 23) - is that they will only respect you more and like you more for escalating. Even if she says no, you will have won points in her book.