Quote: (12-23-2013 08:58 PM)murrb Wrote:
I think I was constantly negging my regular girl for the past 3 months too much because I have realized she is also negging me a lot now.
It happens. You don't need to constantly cut into and criticize a chick. (and I think by negging, you really mean small and constant insults, not back handed ambiguous compliments and teases)
Even if you are teasing, gently, sometimes a chick wants a rest from it. You didn't recognize it, and have now trained her to respond in kind. And she won't stop now. (especially now that you've let it known that it bothers you)
This is a red pill moment. Which pill to take?
She wants commitment and no change in her behavior.
You want a change in behavior, but doesn't seem like you care about committing to her.
The blue pill is to commit and try and work on her.
The red pill sees a chick for who she is, and doesn't try to change her behavior. (well my version of red pill at least)
You can string her along, make demands, but the over-arching problem seems that this girl has you by the gonads. You might not be able to induce the fear of loss, or competition anxiety in your current situation.
So if rude girl has you by the balls, the red pill answer is to gently place your balls in the mouth of the next chick.
Doesn't mean you have to break up, but you're violating rule #1 by not having good options at all times.
Behavior Mod this late in the game (3 months), especially when you haven't been mindful of it - is tough. But only you know if this girl is worth the energy you'll have to put forth to regain control of the relationship.
WIA