Quote: (11-16-2013 11:41 AM)Jazzman92 Wrote:
heres another major one that has fucked with me ever since highschool:
"This girl is so hot and way out of my league and I am not worthy of her anyway. Why would a girl like her even give her number to a/an (insert self conscious trait) guy like me."
Im pretty fat like 27% bf and these kind of thoughts still effect me to date. The way I overcome it is I think of some positive traits about me.
"why shouldnt she like me im 6'3"" or "why shouldnt she like me Im far more intelligent than this broad." etc.
Jazzman:
I think that you make a very good point, here, and let's say that we have some kind of physical state that we cannot hide - either we are ugly or we are overweight (which is frequently frowned upon). It seems that we then have to find an angle for that trait, and maybe revolve in circles in which that trait is accepted or even a positive or at least NOT a negative. We also may have to adjust our standards based on the reality of how that trait is perceived.
So, for example, a fat guy or otherwise physically less attractive guy, may want to get involved in book clubs or music club or bird watching or some activity in which appearance may NOT be as highly rated. Yet the guy may also need to figure out, whether the chosen activity is going to also have a certain poole of the kind of girl that he is targeting.
Although even though fatness may be a trait, sometimes, it can be modified more than other things such as color of skin or potentially having some physically ugly face.
Also, we cannot forget that improving one's game becomes more important, when a guy is lacking in some socially desired characteristics, whether lacking in physical beauty or money or age.