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(11-10-2013 10:34 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:  

No, I didn't, after chapter 4 I figured there is nothing I was going to learn here. The first four stories are basically the same: guy meets girl, thinks he's a special snowflake, then is disappointed to learn that he is just one of a few under consideration for a relationship with the girl. If you are a guy and you are not in an established relationship with a girl (3+ months) and you are surprised that she is talking to, seeing, or even having sex with other men, in today's world, then I don't know what world you are living in. Because, it's certainly not the one on TV, in the newspaper, or anywhere else. Now, if a guy's definition of an angel is a girl that is only dating and talking to one guy at a time then ye, it's going to be tough finding one in today's world - especially in America.

Even, so, this is a clear example of the old double standard that has created the terrible women we have to deal with today. There is nothing any of those women did that you yourself were not doing, maybe not at the same moment, but in general. How would the book have read, had you also included your messages and actions along with the women at the same point in time? Don't you think what you do also impacts a relationship and how a woman behaves? Also, you do not know what the other men in their lives where doing either or how they treat them. What you failed to understand, was that had you not read any of those messages, you not only would have had a great time with most of those women but you might have even had a great relationship with some of them.

Why care about what a woman is doing with anyone else? What matters, is what she is doing with you and how she makes you feel. If a woman can make me happy, she could do whatever the hell she wants - that's how valuable my happiness is to me. Until her actions starts having a negative impact on my happiness, I don't care what she does. And I believe this is a more practical and sensible approach to relationships in general but one that is also unorthodox and iconoclastic. So I don't expect to find a lot of men agreeing with me

PS I once had a very attractive girlfriend that was getting these long love letters from a guy she worked with. She would show them to me but I refused to read them. I told her, you should be faltered that this guy cares enough about you to hand write you these long letters. He doesn't harass you or impose himself on you in any other way. And he keeps doing it even though you never reply to them. Personally, it just shows he has good taste in women. How can I be upset with him for that? Accept the letters and be gracious and polite to him. Someday when your beauty has faded, these letters will remind you of the power it once had.

dude just read the book. So much of what you are saying is already in the book.