I am an "older guy" and I basically operate in two modes. My general purpose mode is basically just having fun and being social and running lite game. If I feel more energetic I might dance more. If I am feeling more laid back I may just sit back and chill. BUT what I am always looking for is that hook or connection. It's that moment when you meet a girl or are interacting with her and you just know you are in - she's hooked. Once this happens I switch modes and become focused on just that girl, providing I find her attractive enough. I drop out of my general game mode and go into what I term sniper mode. This can also happen when I see a girl I find very attractive. Another way to look at it, is that I use regular game/social mode to "filter" girls and sniper mode for the kill.
What I do not do is entertain girls which is what I see a lot of guys doing. There is a fine line between inviting a girl to join you in having a good time and entertaining her. Basically, anytime you feel you are trying too much you are already entertaining them. Sure, the girl will be enjoying herself and having a good time, but you will also have put yourself in chump territory from the start.
A lot of young guys also confuse allowing and contribution from a girl. A girl "allowing" you to talk to her, dance with her, kiss her, feel her up, whatever is just that: she is allowing something to happen because she finds it "entertaining." BUT until a girl starts to actively contribute to an interaction it doesn't mean anything. When she starts initiating conversation and physical contact when she starts to starts to actively contribute to the interaction then and only then does it mean something. Because, then and only then, does she become vested in the interaction. This is why a lot of guys get confused when after spending the whole night "entertaining" a girl that is just allowing it she just leaves with her friends and he's standing there going what? (You can even have sex with a girl that is just allowing it. Then she leaves and you never see her again. Sex is just another level of entertaining for many American girls today.)
PS And Game, to a large extent, is just another form of entertainment.
What I do not do is entertain girls which is what I see a lot of guys doing. There is a fine line between inviting a girl to join you in having a good time and entertaining her. Basically, anytime you feel you are trying too much you are already entertaining them. Sure, the girl will be enjoying herself and having a good time, but you will also have put yourself in chump territory from the start.
A lot of young guys also confuse allowing and contribution from a girl. A girl "allowing" you to talk to her, dance with her, kiss her, feel her up, whatever is just that: she is allowing something to happen because she finds it "entertaining." BUT until a girl starts to actively contribute to an interaction it doesn't mean anything. When she starts initiating conversation and physical contact when she starts to starts to actively contribute to the interaction then and only then does it mean something. Because, then and only then, does she become vested in the interaction. This is why a lot of guys get confused when after spending the whole night "entertaining" a girl that is just allowing it she just leaves with her friends and he's standing there going what? (You can even have sex with a girl that is just allowing it. Then she leaves and you never see her again. Sex is just another level of entertaining for many American girls today.)
PS And Game, to a large extent, is just another form of entertainment.