Quote: (09-10-2013 08:48 PM)YoungDominican Wrote:
What do you guys do when this happens?
I try to prevent it by
- setting expectations
- being legitimately busy and not spending quality time with a chick
But when that fails
- I've lied and said I love you, and the relationship falls apart
- I've not said a thing, and did all of the delay tactics, and the relationship I wanted fell apart
- I've tried to be "cute" and a) kiss her, b) say something witty/smart
I've found that once a girl has gotten to where she feels comfortable enough to say that she loves me, there's not really much that I can do about it.
If I try and play it nonchalant, that makes her hamster spin. If I show mercy, the hamster spins.
Once a woman's mind is made up (positive or negative) there ain't nothing you can do about it © Kellz
As I get older, I realize that I'm looking at the problem wrong.
I'm halfway concerned about her feelings, but I'm more concerned with *my* guilt that I feel about not loving a chick that loves me.
And the other thing that plays in the back of mind is the scarcity mentality/sunk cost. Despite having options and having the ability, usually if a chick says she loves you, you've got something good going. And although I can find another chick to fuck, having something with a chick that you actually like is hard.
Will I find another chick I can vibe with?
Cause I don't know about you, but you can't see "vibe" poking out of a low cut blouse.
So rather than concern yourself with how she feels, and your continued access to her pussy - you're going to have to break some hearts.
If you don't feel it, you don't feel it. You can tell her, or not tell her.
But the real battle is within.
Can I deal with hurting a chick that's been more good to me than bad?
Can I trust myself to find a chick that I can I say I love you to?
WIA