Escalation anxiety is actually a very common thing. Typically guys who never naturally had it with women and are more introverted.
When I first started I had it. I still have it to some degree, although it is much less and I am able to work around it more efficiently.
Basically: How much do you want it?
Let her turn you on. Her skin tone, eyes, thin body, lower cut clothing, the way she talks..
You should feel a natural desire/instinct to want to get close to her and touch her. If you don't, either she is not that attractive to you or you are gay.
Now it's about acting on that desire. It should feel natural for both of you. Do it through actions and not words. The average beta showers her with praise on her appearance and can't be comfortable with more than a hug or a handshake initially.
HCE has some great advice above.
It's all about finding that intent, and calibrating how you express it.
When I first started I had it. I still have it to some degree, although it is much less and I am able to work around it more efficiently.
Basically: How much do you want it?
Let her turn you on. Her skin tone, eyes, thin body, lower cut clothing, the way she talks..
You should feel a natural desire/instinct to want to get close to her and touch her. If you don't, either she is not that attractive to you or you are gay.
Now it's about acting on that desire. It should feel natural for both of you. Do it through actions and not words. The average beta showers her with praise on her appearance and can't be comfortable with more than a hug or a handshake initially.
HCE has some great advice above.
It's all about finding that intent, and calibrating how you express it.