Waitress says come to my restaurant to get a chance to holler at me.
Pass. There are millions of chicks out there that will be down to do something w/o having you meet and be rated by their work friends.
But I see that you're a newb and you're thirsty.
Let's see if I can make the situation more real.
You've got a buddy from high school. Turns out this buddy of yours is selling something. (it's probably Amway, but he was kinda Nerdy, maybe he's developing a cool iPhone app).
If he gets you alone, you might cave. If nothing at all it will be awkward.
If you tell him to come meet you at the sports bar with your and all of your friends, where you can chat with other folks while he tries to bend your ear - in other words - YOU'LL HAVE NO PROBLEM BLOWING HIM OFF.
^this is the situation.
She's handed you a lottery ticket with objectively poor odds. She's setting up a situation where you're coming from weakness.
What you have to do is
1) hold her attention over her boss, co-workers, and customers
2) you will probably fork over some money to the establishment via buying food/liquor, and possibly a tip, a tip to her.
^that's what she thinks is going to happen, consciously or unconsciously.
But you want some Hollywood shit.
You want some reality porn shit.
You want some Jedi Knight Mind Tricks shit.
If she's so hot, and you're so thirsty - you can't show up to this place on the solo and grab a seat at the bar and hope you get her attention. You're going to end up watching sports center and nursing a beer (and please tell me they have TV and beer - if she works @ French Cafe, you're gonna be wondering why you're ordering shit you can't pronounce. "Yo Garcon, fuck is a Nicoise?")
Turning up stag, That's a beta move.
You need props, human props. Pawns to move around the chess board.
If you're really trying to get at this chick, the power move is to bring three hot chicks, sit in her section, and have them judge her to see if she's good enough for you.
Failing that, call up your bro's for an impromptu entourage session. You, Turtle, E, and Vince are going to have to turn your booth in the place to be in her little spot - and she's going to have to gain your attention, plus she gets to see you hold court. They can't be 3 dorks talking about new Call of Duty strategies.
A strong beta/weak alpha move involves bringing a Puppy - or something that garners attention from all the chicks there - but I've always found that type of thing sends the wrong message. I don't have a dog, but I might have a bitch.
Coming through that bitch with just your lonesome, expecting her attention, and then trying to game her while she makes her money - Son, if you had that kinda game, you wouldn't be asking this question.
fake it till you make it.
WIA
Pass. There are millions of chicks out there that will be down to do something w/o having you meet and be rated by their work friends.
But I see that you're a newb and you're thirsty.
Let's see if I can make the situation more real.
You've got a buddy from high school. Turns out this buddy of yours is selling something. (it's probably Amway, but he was kinda Nerdy, maybe he's developing a cool iPhone app).
If he gets you alone, you might cave. If nothing at all it will be awkward.
If you tell him to come meet you at the sports bar with your and all of your friends, where you can chat with other folks while he tries to bend your ear - in other words - YOU'LL HAVE NO PROBLEM BLOWING HIM OFF.
^this is the situation.
She's handed you a lottery ticket with objectively poor odds. She's setting up a situation where you're coming from weakness.
What you have to do is
1) hold her attention over her boss, co-workers, and customers
2) you will probably fork over some money to the establishment via buying food/liquor, and possibly a tip, a tip to her.
^that's what she thinks is going to happen, consciously or unconsciously.
But you want some Hollywood shit.
You want some reality porn shit.
You want some Jedi Knight Mind Tricks shit.
If she's so hot, and you're so thirsty - you can't show up to this place on the solo and grab a seat at the bar and hope you get her attention. You're going to end up watching sports center and nursing a beer (and please tell me they have TV and beer - if she works @ French Cafe, you're gonna be wondering why you're ordering shit you can't pronounce. "Yo Garcon, fuck is a Nicoise?")
Turning up stag, That's a beta move.
You need props, human props. Pawns to move around the chess board.
If you're really trying to get at this chick, the power move is to bring three hot chicks, sit in her section, and have them judge her to see if she's good enough for you.
Failing that, call up your bro's for an impromptu entourage session. You, Turtle, E, and Vince are going to have to turn your booth in the place to be in her little spot - and she's going to have to gain your attention, plus she gets to see you hold court. They can't be 3 dorks talking about new Call of Duty strategies.
A strong beta/weak alpha move involves bringing a Puppy - or something that garners attention from all the chicks there - but I've always found that type of thing sends the wrong message. I don't have a dog, but I might have a bitch.
Coming through that bitch with just your lonesome, expecting her attention, and then trying to game her while she makes her money - Son, if you had that kinda game, you wouldn't be asking this question.
fake it till you make it.
WIA