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(06-08-2013 12:36 AM)murrb Wrote:  

Well I just had another POF date. This girl was really cute slim and 23yrs old. Turns out she had dated this guy from highschool for 4 years and a little over a year ago they broke up. I dont think she had been with very many dudes. Out of all the POF dates I had been on I was always able to at least get them up to my condo.

By 10pm this girl was like "ok I should get home soon" she did drive 45 minutes to come see me but still. I was trying my best to kino and touch her as much as possible at the bar arcade we went to. Then we walked back to my condo where she parked nearby. I usually always ask them if they would like to come up to my place for a drink and they always say "yes" but this girl said "no".

I told her "no problem I hope you have fun on your second date tonight". Then she was like yeah with my bed and pillow..
I dont get it she drove 45 minutes to come hangout for 1hr 30min.
Maybe she just wasn't feeling me or maybe she was a big prude like she was leading on.

The best part was at the end she was like "we should hangout next friday and get dinner."

hahaha

Any advice?

Flip the script. Do not fall into her frame.

She wants to hang out with you = good
She is defining what you'll be doing and schedule = bad

Tell her you're busy Friday and offer something else in return. Focus on having a good time. If you're not having a great time with her, cut the date short yourself. She might be a more slow-moving girl, she might be looking to milk you for free dinners.