My own mother was the same, a force 10 of emasculation. Naturally, she was a feminist. At times she was intolerable. Sometimes I think she wanted to have boys just so she could break some males.
If you want your relationship with your mom to evolve at this point you pretty much need to give her a verbal drubbing and call her out on all her deplorable behavior. Doing this will not only help you move past the bad feelings you might have, but it will force your mom to accept that she can no longer control, manipulate, and emasculate you. If you don't do this, you'll always feel resentment, and your mom will likely never understand why you give her the cold shoulder. You may feel schadenfreude over this, but ultimately you only get to have one mother in this lifetime and it will be too late to communicate after she's gone.
If you want your relationship with your mom to evolve at this point you pretty much need to give her a verbal drubbing and call her out on all her deplorable behavior. Doing this will not only help you move past the bad feelings you might have, but it will force your mom to accept that she can no longer control, manipulate, and emasculate you. If you don't do this, you'll always feel resentment, and your mom will likely never understand why you give her the cold shoulder. You may feel schadenfreude over this, but ultimately you only get to have one mother in this lifetime and it will be too late to communicate after she's gone.