Quote: (05-26-2013 09:07 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:
I got No More Mr. Nice Guy, definitely plan on reading it soon, seems to come highly recommended by a bunch of people, may just reinforce stuff I've already learned, but often times you need to constantly reinforce and reaffirm this stuff, or you will backslide into old ("beta"/?) ways.
exactly.
i have been working on getting rid of my beta tendencies for three solid years, and i still backslide sometimes. i make it a habit to read roissy's 16 commandments at least once a month -- i am even toying with the idea of making flash cards -- and i listen to lovedrop about once every other month. i should re-read no more mr. nice guy, now that i think about it.
the way i see it, i was raised to be a beta by my parents and my society from ages 5 to 35, that's about thirty years of programming. three years of counter-programming has helped a lot, but there is still a lot of work to be done!