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-They wanted to change was lifetime alimony to longterm alimony (50% the lenght of the marriage)

-Ending alimony at retirement age (you know so you dont have to work til you die to support a wife you might have divorced 30 years ago)

-Not including the 2nd wife´s income as a factor in determining what you have to pay.

-To make the law retroactive.



One website http://alimonynightmares.com/ has many stories from Florida in particular where men write about getting fucked with lifetime alimony.

Quote:

After 20 years of marriage, my wife and I decided on divorce. We had a 14 and a 16 year old. . . Florida has No-Fault Divorce. Either party can divorce the other at any time for any reason. She filed for the divorce, which really should have been done years ago, but we were staying together “for the children,” or so I thought. . . I learned the true meaning of Slavery.

In Florida, if you have a “long term marriage,” there is no option. You will be paying Permanent Alimony, if that’s what your ex-spouse wants. At the time, the economy was good. Income was up and the future looked bright. Agreeing to the $10,000 a month alimony payment was going to be real tough, but I thought I could afford to pay it. Since Florida is a No-Fault divorce state so there was nothing I could do to stop the divorce anyway. She knew what she wanted and it wasn’t me. It was $$.

So I paid the $10,000 a month (that doesn’t include the additional $2,500 in child support). Our economy went down the drain. I am a businessman. My wife and I were married years after my education was completed and my business was established. My income decreased with everyone else’s, but the $10,000 alimony payment stayed the same. In order to modify your alimony, I learned it will cost between $15,000 - $30,000. The “payor” (me) has to pay for your own attorney, your ex’s attorney, and all additional expenses. Plus, the attorneys now have clients for life. It’s Permanent Alimony. You’re never completely divorced. You still have a “Financial Marriage” with your ex and their attorneys for the rest of your life.

So not only did my ex-spouse get more than half of everything we owned at the time of the divorce, including properties, savings, half of my business, and 401K, she also has permanently alimony that should support her the rest of her life, unless I die first.

She also has a college degree and has many years before retirement age. Very smart, athletic, and capable, but wouldn’t risk reducing alimony by getting a job that could jeopardize her monthly alimony income. Her attorney has advised her against employment.



So my nightmare is that I’m financially trapped for the rest of my life. I’m at the mercy of the State.
I can’t afford to take a vacation.
My ex-spouse is on a permanent vacation at my expense.
I’m working 6 days a week and many evenings.
She is enjoying her hobbies and playing 7 days a week.
We're the same age.

There is a lifetime “Financial Marriage” that the state has imposed. The wounds of divorce are re-opened every month when the Permanent Alimony check is written.